I say i love him but he don't say it to me and we have 2 kids together When we are in public he is nice but when we get home he tells me to shut up but then he tries to be nice to me
2006-12-10 09:46:35 · 34 answers · asked by xxrichmomxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My gf went through the EXACT same thing and to be honest with you they NEVER married. If he hasn't married you by now, then he probably never will. The only way to know for sure is tell him that he must pick a date by the end of this year or else you will leave. Sorry to be so blunt...... Good luck!
2006-12-10 09:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, yet you're the sufferer of a elementary setup. provide her a ring, promise her marriage. Then stay away from the talk. Hon, he's were given all he needs. You had his youngster, you save residing house for him, pay different costs, do the errands, grant sex. He has no legal duties if he famous someone more advantageous suited. If this is only slightly of paper, why doesn't he opt for to signal it? Why might want to he purchase the cow even as he has all use of it without the pastime? have you ever considered that he gained't also be legally divorced? Been there, performed that, yet a minimum of i got here upon out 3 weeks when we were married, not 10 years and a toddler later. It doesn't fee all that a lot to get a replica of a divorce decree. In my state, the fee of a approved replica of your divorce decree is $10. certain, it truly is TEN money.
2016-11-30 09:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really about whether you will ever be married, is it? In a way that is incidental- which you know because the two of you have been together so long, and had two children together.
The man will not tell you he loves you, and is abusive in private (how cowardly is that!)
Only you know what the costs and gains are of staying under the same roof together. But, whatever the decision there, getting married seems a less than good idea to me...
2006-12-10 09:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by PhD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With an attitude like that are you sure he is the one you wanna marry? I once was so desperate to get married, I almost married the father of my kids, and he was one of the most abusive guys out there. He also slept with any one he could. I thought maybe if we got married that he would be better or love me more. Now I know that I deserve better than that and thank God that I didn't marry him. What I am trying to say is you have to figure out if he is someone you really want to spend the rest of your life with, regardless of your kids. Staying together for the kids never works, alot of times it hurt kids more especially if they witness abuse on a regular. Figure out what you want then go with it. Whatever you choose I wish you the best.
2006-12-10 10:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person will treat you only the way you let them treat you. You let him date you and go beyond the 3 year mark of staying with him without marriage. Sorry dear, you allowed this to happen, he knows this and he knows you are the type that he can string along. A ring on the finger means what ? It's the action of the heart, not the things (in this case a ring) that hug the heart. I'd rather have the truth of my lover hug my heart than an empty ring on my finger. Do you have the courage to ' put him to task ' and be honorable, true and accountable to you ? If not, then just accept your choices . . . their your choices.
2006-12-10 09:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I do not envy your situation. What do you say when you talk about getting married? Does he not want to talk about it? If so, you may need to find an exit strategy out of this relationship. He at least needs to articulate why he doesn't want to get married. And if he doesn't want to tie the knot, then something is wrong. After 8 years that commitment should at least be there, unless you both decided a while ago that getting married wasn't important, and it doesn't sound like that is the case here.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-10 09:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by chris_in_columbia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your bf is having problems within your relationship and he's not telling you about any of them. Sometimes when we've been with someone for so long they start to take things for granted. We become unappreciated as well. I believe you should find out if he still wants to be in a relationship with you and set an ultimatum about commitment. Explain to him that he can't keep treating you the way he has been treating you. People will only do what we allow them to do. If you say something you have to stand by it no matter how difficult. Communication is the key and then trust in a thriving relationship (in my opinion). **** luck. I wish you the best.
2006-12-10 09:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont pawn the ring. As the last person wrote. Even though he might be a jerk doesnt give you the right. Legally it is not a gift but a commitment on being married. So legally if you dont get married it is his property if he paid for it. So him being a jerk, he would take you to court for the price of the ring.
2006-12-10 09:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by A M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will be married, if he has been in other past relationships where he has got hurt. He is making sure that the relationship he is in now is worth it. He will come around with it little by little until he is secured with the relationship, he will propose. Just be good to each other and truthful, for the sake the kids if he loves them that much.
2006-12-10 10:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by ry_bahe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is abusive. Get out now and take the kids. He only gave you the ring to shut you up. Get out and take the kids. Pawn the ring and start a new life. Seek professional help and move on.
2006-12-10 09:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by kryptychyck 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋