To the "other women": do you feel any guilt about what you have done?

Question

When you cheat with a married man, do you think about the harm you are causing to everyone involved?

I've already examined the husand angle, this is just for the "other women" as I would like to research their perspective

Answer 1

I don't think if you are the type to do something like that, guilt even enters your mind. I believe that these women actually get a rush out of messing with another woman's husband. I think they consider it a challenge to see if they can actually take the man away. Many of them don't really want him after they succeed. I've had many friends that were into this and that is where I get my opinion from. Keep in mind though, the husband should be the one to take full responsibility, he is the one out there sniffing around. If it wasn't one woman it will be another. Many times the blame is misguided.

Answer 2

I am not the other women, but I was once the wife..

The other women, never felt guilty. They deserve each other in my eyes they are both pigs. He went through his guilt stage so he said and did everything to hold on, but it was over I would not stay with a cheater.. Although after all this if he said the sky was blue I would still go out to check because I do not believe a word he says.

I understand what you were getting at when you asked your question even though half the people that responded didn't since it turned into a personal attack on the men. You may wonder why? Maybe because the other women like to still point the blame to the man instead of themselves (I feel they share it equally) this goes to show that no they do not have any guilt or remorse. . But.. You have to wonder about the morals of the women who would put herself into a position like this. We already know the morals of the man, and the feelings of what he has done because he has already screwed up his marriage.

I honestly feel if a women can walk into a position like this and be with a married man she is very delusional because if a man can take a women make her a mistress she may eventually make it to wife status, but its only time before she ends up reaping what she sewed. She will eventually know the heart of having her husband cheat on her. So if she didn't know hurt, guilt or anything of the likes before she will eventually.

If women would tell a married man no, then he would not have the option to cheat. I know for one I would never be the other women. I have to much respect for myself to play second fiddle to any women and to any women who has been the mistress thats all you were Second Fiddle. Second Best...

Answer 3

I didn't feel guilty, but I do regret messing with a married man just because it was something I said I would NEVER do...I was also led to believe something else was going on than what was really going on.

As far as the extension of your question about does the other woman think about the harm she is causing you and the family....SHOULDN'T YOU BE ASKING THAT QUESTION TO YOUR HUSBAND INSTEAD OF HIS MISTRESS?
The "other woman" owes you nothing. What she does will come back to her in time, but you can't hold her accountable for your husbands behavior...If it wouldn't have been her, it would have been someone else. Not saying that justifies her, but just saying if your man is no good and going to cheat, then you need to take that up with him because the "other woman" doesn't owe you anything.

Answer 4

okay I have been on both sides of this-so take my advice for what's it worth. My first marriage I walked in on my husband in bed with another woman. There were other problems in the marriage and we got divorced. I was devastated.

Prior to remarrying, I was in a relationship with a man who was married. HE PURSUED ME! Just remember you can be as mad as you want at the woman-but your spouse made the decision to do it.

What I learned from the affair was that his needs (emotional, not just sexual) were not being met. He broke the affair and I don't have much contact with him now. After the affair, he and his wife got counseling and things are going very well for them.

Take a step back, ask him why he cheated. Only he can answer that. His answer may be one of two things: 1) he's a dog-if so, do yourself a favor and divorce him, or 2) there's an emotional detachment between you two-that's fixable as long as he stops and you have the ability to forgive. Forgiving may be very difficult and a lot to ask of a person because you should not need to begin with. The choice is yours . . . .

Answer 5

It takes two to tango. With that being sad I hate my husband for cheating and I hate her also. This bitc# knew that he was married and would never marry her and she kept trying to get him to leave me anyway. He told her that he wouldn't marry her and even told her that we were sleeping together and do you know that she didn't have enough respect for herself to end it. I talked to her about it and she knew that he was sleeping with me and that he would never marry her and she admitted that she would initiate sex with him and they didn't use protection. So while I do blame my husband for all of it cause he went out looking, I do think that she shouldn't have carried on with it and tried so hard to get him to leave me. I have no respect for her and her part in the affair but the blame is being placed where it belongs and that is with my cheating, lying as# husband.

Answer 6

I did feel guilty, because I know what it did to me, when it happened to me.

The strange thing is though, I'd moved away for about a year or so to another state. My phone rang one night and it was her. We talked for almost 2 hours like we were old friends! She forgave me! It's more than I've been able to do for the ones who ruined mine.

Answer 7

I am maried. and my husband said that when he was 19 he slept with a married 32 year old women. He said he was like her toyboy and wasnt attracted to her at all, just sex. I think its sick

Answer 8

does the person who cheated on their spouse think about what it is doing to their family? it goes both ways...and i know alot of ppl who cheat don't let it be known that they are married or taken. it's not just the other woman or other man.

Answer 9

I did that before and right now when I think about it I feel bad with what I did before. But sometimes you also have to consider that it was both consensual.

Answer 10

It is not always about the woman....what about the man...did he think about what he is doing before he did it...why is he looking to be with another woman_