Why would my husband get upset with me because I help people in need?? My neighbor broke her hip and I help her when she needs it. People call me when their feeling down or upset about something. I take people to dr.appts. if they need a ride.I also take care of a 90 yr. old man( I get paid for that) and I also take care of his mother and she has dementia. I did hire someone to help with her though, but I still handle her financial business, her dr.'s appts. her shopping etc. I do this mostly during the day when he's at work and my daughter is in school. I dont hardly ever see him because of his hobbies. So what is the big deal??? As long as its not taking time away from him or my daughter, why should he care??
2006-12-10 09:07:53 · 11 answers · asked by pebbles 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To Colleen, you evidently didnt read this carefully!! I said that it doesnt take time away from my family. I am here for them all the time. If I need to, I take my daughter with me. Wouldnt you think that would teach her to be a caring person also??
2006-12-10 09:17:52 · update #1
It sounds like he is trying to control what you do, where you go, and who you're with. It's a very generous thing to give your time to those in need. He should not care as long as you are not taking time from the family. He might feel that you are more emotionally attached to the people you take care of rather than to him and your daughter. Control comes in many forms.
2006-12-11 03:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is not taking time away from your husband or your daughter, l don't see a problem with it . I would say well done for helping friends and family out. Maybe he is a little jealous of the praise that l'm sure you would recieve.You are certainly not doing anything wrong, I mean honestly, you are even helping his mother. I don't think he has a genuine complaint !! Perhaps you should be complaining about him spending all his spare time with his hobbies instead of with his family . Keep up the good work !!!Everyone needs a person just like you around in times of need. Good on you and good luck !!!
2006-12-10 17:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very nice of you. Your husband should be proud that you have so much caring for those in need. He sounds a little on the selfish side. Keep up the good work, and it's too bad there aren't more people like you around.
2006-12-10 18:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very nice of you to do.. i dont see that around much anymore. Tell your husband you care for those people, tell him, wulddnt you want someone to care for you while your hurt or in pain? Try making up a time for both you together and time as a family, with all 3 of you.
2006-12-10 17:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he shouldnt care he needs to step back and look at what you are doing you are helping people that may not other wise get it i think you are doing a great job and you shouldnt stop sit your husband down and explain to him that you are only helping people in need and tell him how it feels and explain your point of view and also tell him maybe he could help sometime and see how it feels
keep up the good work
2006-12-10 17:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you for your samaritan ways - hubby sounds like a bit of a control freak, especially as your good deeds dont intrude on your family time. He needs to chill and let you do what you do!!
2006-12-10 17:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by zappafan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are doing a good favor for people. especially since you get paid to help, i dont see anything wrong with it.
2006-12-10 17:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should care because your daughter and him should come FIRST in your life and yes you ARE taking time away from them.
2006-12-10 17:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
that is kind of u. he does care bcoz its about u..could it be he's thinking u arent leaving enough time for ur daughter or somethin?? maybe its just misunderstandings
2006-12-10 17:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by scartissue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's mad - it's about something else and not this probably. He's just manifesting himself over these events. I know that's what I do when I'm mad at my wife.
2006-12-10 17:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋