ok. so me and this guy used to date, but we were like on and off. so last year he dumps me because he desides he just doesnt like me anymore. so this year, hes like asked out all my friends, all of them have said no. he doesnt show any interest in me. and personally, i never new how i cood like him. hes immature and crude. but he talks to me all teh time. and hes in every class i have. and he flirts with me. and some days he'll b like "why dont u ever talk to me? dont u still wanna b friends? what happened?" and i do not like hurting people so i say "um, yeh." so then i just try to be nice and stuff. and then the next day im just talking to him, being nice, i was actually to a point where i cood stand him and then he'll flip at me "what the ****! shut the **** up! why dont u leave me alone!" swearing and spouting off all this really untrue stuff. but he like changes everyday and i dont no what to do. he just flips, or he'll act like im a terrible person for not talking er something.
2006-12-10 09:01:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
trust me, i dont like hanging out with this guy. i hate him. but i cant get away from him. he hangs out with the same friend group. one of my friends is obsessed with him. ive tried to talk to him about it. he acts like theres nothing wrong.
2006-12-10 09:12:24 · update #1
ok im adding more details. the guy is sane. hes just immature and he thinks everyone has it better then him. u approach him directly about it and he automatically starts into his whole poor me speech and then i dont have the heart to ditch him. i mean, he's only 14. he isnt insane yet.
2006-12-10 09:22:13 · update #2
gosh...more details with every answer. he does no drugs. hes a relativly nice dude, i guess i just didnt give u guys the right details. i mean, hes a good person, he just doesnt no soemtimes. ill talk to him. but hes not crazy, he's just annoying.
2006-12-10 09:32:35 · update #3
I think it is safe to assume this guy has serious mental health problems, from your description. I suggest you do whatever is necessary to get him out of your life, for your own safety & sanity.
Being nice to someone you don't like is actually lying to them. It is more kind to be honest about how you really feel about him, & each go your own way. Otherwise you are leading him on. Not intentionally, I know. Being polite too often has the opposite effect in the end.
It is hard to be direct, but becomes easier with practice. For your own good, please start practicing. He gives you the opening when he asks why you don't want to be friends. Because you can't deal with his off the wall behavior is the answer. Well, what do you mean? Next answer is, If he doesn't already know that is even scarier. Tell him to check with his friends for answers, & leave. Believe me, he knows. To try to answer him is playing his game. Quit playing by his rules because you always lose. Good luck.
2nd response, after yours. "We have nothing to talk about. Period" is the only response left. See a school counselor or outside counselor for advice about further actions for you to take, even if it leads to legal action. This guy is dangerous. I repeat, quit playing his sick game, for your own protection.
2006-12-10 09:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is easily not something incorrect with a HS junior asking out a HS Freshman. Now, no count if she'll be allowed to pass out with you is a different tale, yet there's no harm in asking. Now, in case you had the nerve to ask out a school Freshman, now which would be something. stable success, guy - wish she says specific.
2016-10-14 10:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm.. do you know if this guy does drugs? cuz it sure sounds to me too like he's different everyday. i'd try and avoid him if i were you! yeah i know he's in all your classes, but just try not to start any convo with him or anything like that, you don't have to answer him when he talks to you either. and i wouldn't be anywhere near him when you are alone. hang out with your friends so that won't happen. i even suggest talking with someone at school about it, like a counselor or a coo teacher you can trust. tell one or both of your parents too. (hey, i'm a mom, i'd want to know if this was happening with one of my kids, ya know?) this guy sounds so weirdly unstable that anything could happen. and i sure wouldn't want for you to get hurt more, either emotionally or physically. sounds like it's just so hard to figure out what's up with this guy! sounds like he needs help too. but not from you, ok? let someone at school and home know what's going on, and they can get this dude the help he needs.... before anyone else gets hurt or something. the counselor or teacher at school, they won't 'rat you out' that your the one who talked with em about this guy. someone from the office will just talk with him themself, maybe with his teachers too, maybe watch him for awhile. and hopefully they'll figure out what's going on with him. that's the best way for you to help him hun, and be safe yourself, ya know? ;)
2006-12-10 09:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Myst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to run like h*** from this guy. He is a moron who has no respect for you. Get a grip, girl! I mean, he's asked all of your friends out. Hello? Avoid him like the plague.
2006-12-10 09:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u think he is an *** hole and that you woh't put up with this games.. be streight forward a guy like that is better to loose than have
2006-12-10 09:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋