extramarital sex acceptable? One spouse is no longer interested in sex and the other is. The one who is doesn't want to obtain permission, but doesn't want to finish life sexless, either. The no permission caveat has to do with the possibility that some day the not interested spouse might change and it would suck to have the issue always skulking in the closet.
2006-12-10 08:50:47 · 12 answers · asked by Hank Hill 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sex is a big part of marraige, some people do not like to say it but I will. No sex in a marraige is not right, unless there has been some tragic accident and in that case it is different. The best thing for you to do is try to bring romance back into your life and whoo her. If that does not work then look into getting a divorce, if you don't then how will you feel giving the most preacious thing you have to someone else without telling her. Do the right thing and fight for it first and then move on.
2006-12-10 09:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by twinki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It’s difficult to say exactly how many of the 113 million married Americans are too exhausted or too grumpy to get it on, but some psychologists estimate that 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which is how the experts define sexless marriage.
Marriage counselors can’t tell you how much sex you should be having, but most agree that you should be having some. Sex is only a small part of a good union, but happy marriages usually include it. Frequency of sex may be a measure of a marriage’s long-term health; if it suddenly starts to decline, it can be a leading indicator of deeper problems. Marriage consultants say intimacy is often the glue that holds a couple together over time. If either member of a couple is miserable with the amount of sex in a marriage, it can cause devastating problems—and, in some cases, divorce. It can affect moods and spill over into all aspects of life—relationships with other family members, even performance in the office. It is importent problem and reason could be numerous i would advise you to get professional advice. Affair will not help masturbation may temporarely relieve stress.
2006-12-10 09:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds ot me like you want to get some on the side, without permission, so just go do it. You know that if you do it's always going to be in the back of your mind anyway. It doesn't matter if you had permission or not. Your wife doesn't want sex with you, but maybe she wants it with someone else.
It's not an easy life when your wife doesn't want sex, I know I've been there. She didn't change, so I doubt your wfe changes. I got a divorce. You should too. No sexlife just ain't right, but cheating isn't right either. Even with permission!
Even if you got permission, what kiind of marrage do you have?
2006-12-10 09:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse of 12+ years sneeked out and left me on Sunday previous. i love her very a lot and that i by no skill abused her phyically or mentally yet I heavily disregarded her. I shyed remote from sex and that style of situation. i love her dearly and that i'm in gut wrenching discomfort now, i'm an identical way as your husband became, no longer taking note of her. She initiated sex for years or perhaps often times I reported no, I now see how horroble that can make a lady sense. i'm 40 5 and my spouse is 34 and that i leave out her negative. I only were given bored with sex, there have been no surprises, no longer some thing new so I were given bored and infrequently may particularly watch television than to make like to her which became so incorrect. If I ever have the threat to win decrease back her love i visit love her and make like to her like there became no the following day. I by no skill may want everybody to undergo the gut wrenching discomfort that i'm dealing with at present, the sleepless nights, the crying, the loneliness and the sensation of understanding i'm hurting because I damage someone that i love dearly. you want to search for suggestion from out of your husband, have a severe communicate with him without distractions and tell him that you're are woman and your needs aren't from now on being met by him and also you adore him yet your marrage won't be able to undergo if he does no longer commence to love like a lady should be loved. I favor my spouse may have heavily talked to me earlier leaving me. If i'm so fortunate as to have my spouse go back to my life I assure you that i visit provide her each and each and every of the love and interest that her wonderful self merits. good luck
2016-11-25 19:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you, but I have been recently married and a woman to boot. It's not that I don't love my husband, but I feel very insulted and undesirable. I know he would never allow an extramarital affair too. When you get an answer, let me know.
2006-12-10 09:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by mycorvette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone in sexless marriages divorce.
Do you have permission to get sex elsewhere? If not, you'll need to satisfy yourself.
If everything else in the marriage is fine, you can stay married.
2006-12-10 09:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Permission? You don't need permission to divorce, which is the only way to fix your problem.
2006-12-10 08:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well dont go out and cheat, make it better by divorcing.
2006-12-10 08:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a life divorce that person
2006-12-10 08:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like a long goodbye say it and be done with
2006-12-10 09:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by marshall m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋