Is it normal to worry about a miscarriage?

Question

I am only 4 weeks pregnant (I conceived 11 days ago), and I am so afraid of having a miscarriage because my pregnancy is so new.

This is my first pregnancy ever.


At my last yearly exam my doctor said he has no reason to believe my body cannot carry a baby to full term, but I am still scared.


I haven't had any bleeding or cramping and I am going to the doctors this week for a beta test... I am just so nervous about the whole thing.


Is it normal to worry about a miscarriage? They are fairly common, right? Did you worry?

Answer 1

These are kind answers you have here, and I'm hesitant to come along and sort of cr@p on them, but -- it's not "rare." They are, yes, fairly common.

See:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscarriage#Prevalence

&

"...it is important to remember that a large portion of women will experience at least one miscarriage during their reproductive years."

http://www.womens-health.co.uk/miscarr.asp

But, also from that last site:

"One London study from Prof. Regan's Recurrent Miscarriage clinic found that the risk of miscarriage is related to the past pregnancy history in the following way:
First pregnancy 5%"

There isn't much to say beyond:

-- your pregnancy does have excellent odds of working out; those statistics vary all over the place, too -- I'd whittle even 5% down if you're healthy, in your 20s or not too far in either direction, don't smoke, etc, etc,
-- worrying is entirely normal,
-- it's a shame it's such a secret for so many people; I suspect the worry would be a lot easier to accept if it wasn't,
-- even though it's very early, you don't have long to go before you can start to relax.

I suspect some degree of worry is healthy. Nothing can prepare you for it, but there're reasons waiting to tell people, decorate a nursery, etc, are common. Not that I'm all for that -- again, making a big shameful secret out of it doesn't strike me as healthy -- but, clearly, it's "normal" to worry.

Answer 2

Of course you're worried. This is your baby, it's what Mom's do! This will not be the last thing you worry about. Loads of first time Mom's run to the doctor, because the baby has hiccups!

I've had three pregnancies, and four completely healthy and full term babies. I know many many women aren't as fortunate as I am, but I don't think miscarriages are something you should be excessively worrying about. If I were you, I would go to your local bookstore, or look online, and buy a copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting." It's the pregnant woman's bible! I bought a copy for all three of my pregnancies. It can do wonderful things for anxious Moms-to-be. I don't know how many times I've turned to my copies, and had my question answered, and rested reassured that all was well.

Take a deep breath, there are much more important things for Mom to worry about. You have to pick out a name afterall! Good luck and Congraduations, you have a lifetime of love and worry ahead of you!

Answer 3

Definately normal in regards to my personal circumstances.

From the moment i discovered i was pregnant i worried about miscarriage - for no good reason. I am young and healthy and there is no medical reason to think i would have a miscarriage. It is my first baby and yet i was still terrified! And like you i had no bleeding or cramping or anything!

I think it is just part and parcel of it - when you find out you are pregnant (assuming you are happy about it and keeping it of course) you suddenly feel as if it is going to be taken away from you... just because it is something you want. I would worry so much i stressed myself out constantly.

I learnt that i needed to stop with the negative thoughts and not stress so much because that in itself is bad for baby. I still worried about the negatives but i also made myself think positively more often. I'm 22wks today!

Remember, alot of miscarriages happen before most even realise they are pregnant.

I'm sure you and your baby will be fine. You will have a whole life-time to worry about baby once he/she is born - this is just the beginning! lol.

Best of luck - hope you're first trimester isn't too bad (mine was horrible... morning sickness!!). Look after yourself and try not to worry too much.

Answer 4

No, I didn't. I think for women who've had several miscarriages, worry would be normal. Try not to stress & think of all the wonderful things going on. Soon you'll be able to feel your baby inside of you & it's an AWESOME experience to feel that little life living in you. :) Start looking at baby names, baby stuff, etc. You'll have soo much fun preparing you won't have time to stress! Plus, make sure you are eatting well, exercising & getting plenty of water! Buy & keep a Mother-To-Be book, it's a great time & CONGRATS!!! :)))!
Daily walks are excellent!

Answer 5

It's totally normal to worry, every mother does once in a while. But relax! the odds of a miscarraige happening are actually fairly small. If you don't have any problems, you're all right. Your baby will be fine! =0)

Answer 6

It is normal to worry but please do not get obsessed with this as you will miss out on the joys of early pregnancy - apart from the morning sickness if your are unlucky to get it.

Try not to put yourself in undue circumstances - making your body doing something it does not like doing - dont go jumping on horses and riding bikes etc unless your body is conditioned ( having done it for years). Just relax and sit back and enjoy your last few months of just being you and your partner as baby makes 3. Read up about early pregnancy precautions in mags and the net - Best of Luck

Answer 7

I am 8 weeks pregnant and I worried my BUTT off! I still worry! This is also my first pregnancy. I think it is a typical fear. Although miscarriages tend to be rare compared to heathly births it still scares the crap out of us! Just try and get through each day ( i made a calander to cross of days and if i forgot i got to cross off more days and that helped seem to make time go faster till miscarriage odds decrease even more!) Good Luck and try to relax, i know its hard!!

Answer 8

of corse its normal. but try not to worry too much about it, you'll be fine! but yes the worrying is normal. . . youll be worrying about that baby till he/she's grown and moved out and well basically for the rest of your life now lol.
good luck and CONGRATS!!!

Answer 9

YES ITS NORMAL TO WORRY. BUT IF YOUR DOCTOR SAID EVERYTHING IS NORMAL DONT WORRY HE KNOW AND WOULD LET YOU KNOW IF THERE WAS A PROBLEM, KEEP BUSY GO SHOPPING LOOKING FOR ITEMS FOR THE BABY, AND JUST BE HAPPY. CONGRADULATIONS.

Answer 10

its not normal for that but you might want to worry about your prostate.