A girl in my class has been my friend for two years. She's always been touchy-feely and not afraid to act gay. I want to be closer to her, touch her and be with her. Problem.
Here's the problem, in a few simple words, she scares me. I boiled in a pot of guilt for most of my summer over a small incident, so I always imagined her shunning me. When I saw her again she was totally accepting and nice. Besides this, she still holds a charisma that pushes me into submission.
I am not a shy person around a few select friends, but around my family or other people I'm tongue-tied. Especially around her I cannot speak, make eye contact, or help but stutter over my own words.
Here's my question: I really want to be closer to her, but I can't get past my confusion. I want to tell her how I feel but she's shown me she's afraid of other girls truly liking her, and not just pretending. I'm a little shaky with how I look, so I don't know if she likes me back. Should I act on my feelings?
2006-12-10 08:47:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To glitter/any one else willing to answer:
How should I go about asking her if she prefers men or woman without raising any unwanted questions about my own orientation?
2006-12-10 09:17:27 · update #1
Perhaps you should consider the consequences of actually "coming on to her." Could you deal with the rejection? Could you deal with her telling other people that you liked other girls sexually?
There's nothing wrong with your desire for her. There's also nothing wrong with being rejected.
So give it a whirl, and if she turns you down, go find another.
One more thing to take note of; most guys don't mind girls who like other girls. In fact, it turns us on.
Sincerely,
Chris
2006-12-10 09:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by ChrisJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hi this isn't something i would want to deal with everyday,i think you should find a nice spot to meet her and really talk to her what if she feels the same and you will never know unless you talk to her,now if she does not feel the same at least you will know and get on with your life,you will feel sooooo much better no matter what the outcome,just knowing will be a great start..good luck to you and i really hope it turns out the way you want,i really do..Bye Deb
2006-12-10 16:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by deb s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Approach her and tell her that you would like to be intimate with her if it would not damage your friendship. If she says yes, you are in luck and then enjoy the experience of being together. If she says no, do everything to keep her as a friend.
2006-12-10 16:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
up to me u should first learn whether she likes women or not in general.
"she's shown me she's afraid of other girls truly liking her" was the keypoint making me think this way and advise u to be more sure-footed if you don't wanna get overreacted.
2006-12-10 17:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by ddyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell you this act on them and if she responds liking it you have your answer if she doesn'tlike it and still are friends thats cool right there are three ways that she could do love you back be friends or hate you
2006-12-10 17:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by davermon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not gay - do not approacher with trying it out. If she is not gay, then she is not gay. period
2006-12-10 17:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋