How can I make my wife happy with me?

Question

I seem to be forgetful about things I should get finished. None of these things are life and death but it seems to annoy her to the point she is yelling and screaming. I tried a planner to help remember things but nothing I do seems good enough for Her. WHAT DO I DO?

Answer 1

Have her make a short list of things that she wants done. When it comes time to do them talk to her on how she wants them done. She may have a different outlook on how she wants them complete. You can throw some of your ideas in, too. But before you ask her for a short list, tell her that you really are trying to make her happy and you thought this may help the communication. She will see that your really trying and maybe she won't be so hard on you. She may be struggling emotionally or something. That's when women get a little edgie. Ask her if there is anything else that she would like to talk about. And pay her some one on one attention. Feeling special is as important to you as it is to her.

Answer 2

This may burst your bubble but, my husband used to critique everything i done. It seemed like he would look for things to ***** about. No matter how hard i tried to make sure things were done before he had a chance to say anything about it, he was on something else.One night while at the dinner table he said something that really upset me. This just seemed to be his thing. I got up from the dinner table and went to the living room. He came in and wanted to know what was wrong. I was crying by this time. I told him " no matter how hard i try, it is never enough for you". two days later i found out he was cheating on me. After that he was not looking so much for how i was doing thing but what i might be going to do to or with him because of his cheating.It is sad that, after i found that out, he back off of me but, he had taken my heart out and stepped on it. I had always loved him and still did but, there was something ( a feeling i had for him that died inside of me and it never revived). I told him" you have broken my spirit. I had noticed some things and started paying some attention to them. That is how i found out what all the BS was about. I wish you the best and hope this is not the case. But i never thought my husband was treating me this way over another woman.

Answer 3

Do you have ADD? If so, it is not your fault! Just tell her, that you can't match to her high expectation on you, that she needs to lower her standard of her expectaions. Tell her someday you are going to ruined your own life, because she is letting her self down of what she had expected.
Tell her is is disrespectful to you by yelling and screaming at her, that your time as a child with your mother has already became of history, and that you have marry her as your wife.
What to do, tell her, that you are the head of household, husband, and you are not going to be disrespected by her, and that she has indeed went overboard with your boundraies.
Tell her all the nagging, screaming, and yelling must go, and not come back in your home, and marriage.
Tell her, she can stand on the side of the road screaming at every driver to go left, and that went right and ignoring her and thinking she has lost her mind.
Tell her even screaming and yelling at the kids will not get them to listen or do what she wanted.
Tell her, that you are not equiped to remember everything, that you are a man, wired differently than her, that your mind has one foucs at a time, and she can have her focus as a spider web and computer.
That is why a man and wife is wonderful blessed of the difference that we bring in to the union of marriage.
My friend, I am a woman, and I strongly stressed that you get your points cross to your wife.
From experienced , my high ridiucoulous expectaitons of my husband was foundly not able to do, and I was disappointed that it did not meet my own standards. But I am glad, that my husband carry his point across, took leadership and headship over me, and let me see him as a MAN! And that I am a woman!
YOur wife may not like this, if she is so already controling, but when women nags all the time, there is a neglect from the husband of not taking leading headship over the family.
Yes I would annoy her by ignoring her with all the yellling ,nagging, screaming too. So Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

It seems that she is not happy with herself. Someone not being happy in the marraige can destroy you both. No matter what you do the outcome will be the same. Try separating for a while and see where that takes you. Maybe you both feel like you don't feel the same or it may just be her. Let her go for a while may be that will help your marraige. It helped mine alot. I was doing the same thing to my husband and we separated for a while and I found happiness with my self and then we found happiness together again.

Answer 5

In Relationship of life time we should help each other and understand each other, not with the help of a third person I mean any planner ifact we should help each other by our own selfs. You both should co-operate with each other and try to understand each other's problems.

Answer 6

Buy a small pocket-sized cassette recorder with tape. When she gives you a task, turn on the cassette recorder and recite the tasks she wants you to finish. She'll be happy and so will you. Good luck.

Answer 7

Did the planner work? Did you actually use it?

Maybe she gets mad because she wants to depend on you and she apparently can't. Just keep on working to make it better - not just for her, but for yourself as well.

Answer 8

try to talk to her about it and ask her to remind you about the things that you need to finish without yelling or screaming

Answer 9

Talk with her. I doubt that she would be really upset over such small things it might be something rooted deep in her, suggest counseling.

Answer 10

take her out to a nice resterant nothing rich and fancy but something nice treat her like a queen. ladies love that. OR buy her nice earrings or something.