2006-12-10 08:30:29 · 6 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
faithfullness isn't something we can get by demanding it, it's something we deserve if we married, stuck by that person, never cheated, and loved them. but it's something we don't always get from a relationship. if we must demand it it isn't worth having, it must be given without conditions, faithfullness is a choice, even if in the midst of a crisis. cause if we just hang in there, and do what we know is right, the crisis will pass. when we marry we never think of the downside, unfaithfullness, we only see the life we will have, what we hope for, but sometimes unfaithfullness comes, than we must decide where to go with it, do we forgive, or do we move on. once unfaithfullness comes to visit, all the hopes and dreams and feeling's can never be looked at again in quite the same way.
2006-12-10 09:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Faithfullness is a given! Any two people who are in a committed relationship, especially marriage, are faithful because that is why they are in a committed relationship. If they no longer feel they need or want to be faithful, then it is time to get out of a relationship. I personally can't comprehend why people get married or make a commitment to be in a commtted relationship when they know that it isn't in them to be faithful.
While I was married I never considered cheating. Once I knew I was seperated and filed for divorce I suddenly noticed men looking at me. I asked my friends about how do these men know I am single now. My friends said...."they have always been looking and flirting with you, you were in a committed relationship and you didn't notice it"
Faithfulness is a part of being in a committed relationship. I can't be earned because it has been promised to you. You shouldn't cheat or be cheated on because there is a commitment.
Like I said before if a person feels the urge to cheat there is either something wrong with their level of commitmemt or they arn't morally capable of being faithful for any period of time.
A person who cheats shouldn't blame their partner becasue if the partner isn't giving them what they need there needs to be communication and resolution to the issue. If it can't be resolved then there should be a divorce or a parting of ways.
If your partner cheats and sincerely is sorry and asks for forgivness then it is up to you whether or not you can trust them.
Then they need to never again put any one between the two of you. If they can't do that, then they are not good material for a long term relationship.
If a relationship struggles with faithfulness then it really isn't a relationsihp. A person needs to move on and stop putting expectations on a person that the other person can't live up to.
Mutual love and respect makes faithfulness a given.
2006-12-10 17:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
faithfullness is not something that has to be earned, it should be something that is given because it is deserved, it can never be lost either, but the person that gives it can be lost.
every person deserves faithfullness, it is one of those things like everyone deserves respect.
if someone is not faithfull to you do you even want to stick around long enough to demand it or do some tricks like a dog to earn it?
2006-12-10 16:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if we want people to be faithful to us firstly, we have to learn to be faithful to our selves. everything begins with us cause we will be able to shine that through our life, rub and attract the same kind.
2006-12-11 00:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves faithfulness.
2006-12-10 16:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do, especially as women.
2006-12-10 16:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋