WELL IM 22 YRS OLD AND MY FIANCE HAS 2 CHICLDREN FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE AND ITS BEENGOOD TO SEE THEMEVERY OTHER WEEKEND UNTILE THER EMOTHER TOLD MY FIANCE THAT HE COULDNT SEE THEM ANYMORE SO I HAD TO GET USE TO NOT SEEIN GTHEM AROUND AND THEN I SEE THEM AGAIN AND THEN I HAD TO GET USE TO THEM BEING AROUND AND NOW SINCE THERE MOTHER HASNT LET US SEE THE 2 KIDS IN OVRE A YEAR I HAD TO GET USE TO THEM NOT BEING AROUND AND I FEEL COMFORTABLE NOW AND HE WENT TO HIS LAWYER TO SEE BOUT WHAT HE CAN DO TO SEE HIS KIDS AND I FEEL BAD FOR SAYING THIS BUT I LIKE THEM NOT BEING AROUND AND I HAD TO CHANGE MY LIFE SO MANY TIMES AND I DONT WANNA CHANGE WHAT I H AVE NOW... WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS??? IS IT BECAUSE IM SO YOUNG BECAUSE I DONT HAVE KIDS OF MY OWN??? GIVEME SOME HELPFUL ADVICE ON HIS KIDS COMING BACK INTO OUR LIVES AND HOW IS IT GONNA CHANGE WHAT I HAVE WITH MY FIANCE?.. THANKS
2006-12-10 08:29:39 · 7 answers · asked by Sweet N Loveable 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hon, you have some serious decisions to make. First of all, these children deserve to see their Dad, and of course he's going to want a relationship with them too. Secondly, you'd better keep in mind that this ex, is going to be in your lives for a long time.(At least till these children are grown) There will be times over and over again, where there will be issues regarding their children, and they will need to make decisions together. If you are feeling right now that you like it better with the children out of the picture, you'd better think again. Maybe you had best end the relationship with this guy, and find someone who doesn't have children. You're right about one thing, you are to young to be involved with someone who has kids, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question. Good luck with your decision, I hope I haven't offended you, these are just the simple true facts.
2006-12-10 08:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you don't have kids you are thinking of this in a certain way. But having kids of my own, I can tell you that if anyone made me choose (fiance or not) I would pick my kids. Think about that before you decide what you are going to say to him. If you really can't live with his kids then you should move on because they are going to be part of his life for the rest of his life. You and he need to sit down and have a serious talk.
2006-12-10 16:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by libra1079 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could be more helpful than this, but the only thing I really feel I can advise you is that (1) you are right and not wrong to feel this way - there is anxiety, it is awkward, it is a head game, it is manipulation, it is honest feelings. So don't punish yourself ,and (2) your going to have to hang in there if you love your fiance - can you imagine how he feels?! I wish you the best. Good luck.
2006-12-10 16:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Another Garcia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your fiance really loves his kids because if he didn't then he wouldn't be tryin to get them. If yall are gettin married soon then you ain't got no choice but to deal with it. If you think he is gonna put you before those kids then you betta think again. You'll get used to them being around again if you've done it before
2006-12-10 16:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by Black Diamond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll this is one one those how much do you truly love you fiance you went in knowing he ad children...... and it isn't like they are there full time, or even your responsibility to take care, of he is a good man for want to see them and you should allow him to if you love him you'll deal.
2006-12-10 16:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget it
2006-12-10 16:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by charles d 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry i dont know what you should do
2006-12-10 16:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by xobeccaxo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋