Im SAD HE DIDNT MAKE IT TO THE END..?

Question

I HAD A BABY BOY LIKE 1 MONTH AGO IM SOOOO SAD HE DIDNT MAKE IT HE WAS BORN AT 5 MONTHS AND I CANT FIND NOTHING TO DO ALL I DO IS CRY I FEEL SICK AND LIKE I DID SOMETHING SO VERY WRONG AND I DONT KNOW I FEEL SAD AND HATE MYSELF FOR HIS DEATH WHY DID IT HAPPEN TO MY SON HE WAS LITTLE AND DIDNT DO NOTHING TO ANYBODY WHY DOES GOD TAKE AWAY BABIES LIFE AWAY...BTW I COULDNT DO IT TO FULL TERM CUZ OF MY AGE IM 13

R.I.P TIMOTHY JAMES GARCIA I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU

Answer 1

Sweetie, you are not to blame. You are too young to have children, this was God's way of telling you.

You will have children again. And they will be so beautiful, and you will thank him, and be so happy.

And Timothy James Garcia will live on forever in your heart. He will watch his young mother, and he will be thankful for the short time he had on Earth.

Be thankful that he had time on this blessed place. Be thankful that he had such a great mother.

Be thankful, and stay strong.

You are amazing.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for the loss. Part of the reason at least is because of your age I'm sure and not knowing your height and weight that is a fact. If you are too under weight you are going to have complications in general. Giving your age and the fact that you aren't done developing, it is potential that your body couldn't handle the stress of being pregnant. I can't answer why on God's part other than if your son had survived it would have been possibly a hard life. Premature births come with complications as I am sure you were told and forewarned.
I apologize that I have no words of comfort other than he's in a better place now. I highly recommend you get help though. It's a tough thing to get through and at your age you shouldn't even have to think about going through something like this. It's important to keep your friends close and let them help your through it.
I would also recommend waiting on the sex, later down the road you'll be proud you aren't a statistic of an STD or something. Try finding a support group and talk to your doctor about how you are feeling or a school counselor.

Answer 3

I am very sorry for your loss. It can sometimes be very difficult for a young girl to carry a baby to term; sometimes your body just isn't mature enough. There's no real reason - it's just something that happens.

I know that you feel responsible for his death, but there was nothing you could have done to change this; it is not something you can control. It is completely ok to feel sad, and to grieve for your baby, and for the loss you have suffered. Let yourself take the time you need, and don't think that there is a certain time to be finished by - you will grieve at your own pace, in your own way. If indeed God chose to take this baby back to himself, then there is no way for you to have changed the outcome - you are not stronger than biology, and you are not stronger than God. You tried your best, and did everything a mother could do. It will take time, but you will be healed of your grief, and will some day go on to be the mother of other children; you may very well love them all the more because of the one that was lost.

Answer 4

Oh hunny, I am so sorry for your lost. I will say a prayer for you. I know this is the hardest thing to hear, but its not your fault, I knew a 13 year old to have a full term baby. God has a life plan for everyone even before they are made. Your sons life plan was mayne to touch your life and help you some way or another. I would recommend professional help. I had a miscarriage when I was 15, and I still blame myself. I am now 19, and was put on meds. to help me cope with my lost last year. I never got help and I never talked to anyone about it and I still miss my baby so much. He would be 3 now. Please talk to someone and start healing so its not so hard later on in life. Also have some where where you can go and morn and remember you little baby. crying is a good way to help heal. Just remember that oneday, you will see your beautiful son and get to spend forever with him. Best of luck.

Answer 5

Well i am very sorry to hear! That is horrible and no one deserves that. BUT things happen girl and you really need to stay strong for Timothy and keep going with your life. Why couldnt you do it full term? Just because your body couldnt handle it? Well Things will get better as the time passes and you will have another chance to have another baby. Just focus on your schooling and get that out of the way. Take on a hobby tat will help pass the time. I am so sorry it just happened so it is ok you feel sick and feel like you should just cry all the time. But soon you need to look at the lighter sides of things you will be able to have another baby. I am sorry ....

Answer 6

I am so sad to hear...my ex and i have three beautiful children but my ex carried until the eighth month and that she had a miscarriage...in all she was pregnant a total of 5 times of which she successfully carried three and we lost two...im not sure how you feel but i to have felt great sadness at the loss of the two whom were miscarried but find solice knowing that should they have been carried to term there may have been a grave deformity ultimately making life unviable or one that would be lived in misery...but yet there are miracles..later when you are old enough than maybe you will have one..the pain will fade but it will never go away...I still cry at the thought of the lost ones but am more willing to accept it...hope that helps...take care and god bless....
My prayers are with you T. J. Garcia
oh yeah the miracle....my daughter was born with all her organs on the opposite side of where they should be

Answer 7

Wow sweets I am sooo sorry and they always say god will not put anything on your plate you cant handle so please just relax and take things slow and recover the way you can ad don't listen to the fact that you can always have another baby although you may the new one will never replace special baby Timothy and just think of it like this honey God needed another angel and beacuse your little guy was not strong enough to fight on his own he borrowed him and he will watch over you, good luck with coping if you need understanding help talk to the preist at your church but just keep your head up things have to get worse before they can get better and I think you are on the road to getting better smile and I will pray for you!! R.I.P little man you are a special baby.

Answer 8

i does not call it weird and wonderful. yet i'd comprehend why ur unhappy. it ought to hav been the actual shown truth that if the international did end there must be no concerns ecept of going to heaven or not. And u ought to hav been searching ahead to that. So no i wouldnt evaluate it weird and wonderful. :)

Answer 9

I am so saddened by your loss but please do not blame yourself.
All the things I could say probably wont help, but please know that sometimes it just was not meant to be. Your child was born with a purpose, he came and did what he had to do and now he is gone. It may take a while, but one day you will realise what that purpose was. He was loved by his mother, that is all a child needs and you gave him that so please do not feel guilt. He has taught you a love you could never imagine. He has taught you aboult loss, He has shown you how to be strong, He has taught you about responsibility and about the fragileness of life. Celebrate his life and the opportunities he has given you to become a better person for the experience. I beleive children and mothers are soul mates, you will be with him again.

Answer 10

I was 14 and had a preemie of two months early because I had pre-eclampsia. Although my daughter made it they told me while she was in the NICU that she was going to die. Flat out "she's not going to make it past a few weeks". If you didn't smoke or drink or do drugs and you took care of yourself then there is no reason to blame yourself. Give it time and you will be okay. It's so hard to deal with infant's death and miscarriage... many other women feel your pain. Maybe you should seek grief counseling.