Loyalty and Faithfulness: how do you explain the difference and how would you?

Question

deal with these two issues in your marriage?

I mean, how would you cope with these issues if your marriage lacks of either one? Which is more important to you? Because to me, there is a difference between the two of them. Which one is it? Can you tell me?

Answer 1

I'll try my best to spit out what I know...

Romantic Love Perspective:
Loyalty is being there for your love even when others (others does not just mean friends and families... it means many things including items, or personal issues such as dark pasts) have left, and that person can count on you no matter what (that's where faith comes in). Loyalty comes from a 1st person perspective (only you know how loyal you are) and the other person (3rd person) can never be sure that you are 100% loyal but the other person can be 100% faithful ("I'm sure she is 100% loyal...") because your ACTIONS exemplify loyalty.

Though it's nice to find someone who is 100% loyal 100% of the time, that's just a dream. For example, if a man hits his wife, and abuses her, she is more likely to leave (she is not 100% loyal is she?). This was an extreme example, but this shows that on average, the bond between a man and a woman is weaker than parents and children, or brothers and sisters even.

If your marriage lacks one of both, or both, it is problematic. If it lacks one, the other is sure to follow (because they are connected). Therefore, in the end, it cannot be lacking only one; but it must be lacking both faith and loyalty. One cannot live without the other. If I had to pick one, it would be faithfulness that is more important, but it wins by a small margin. Only because one cannot be 100% loyal but can be beyond 100% faithful.

Since it is you who is asking this question, only YOU can make a difference in your marriage, because your HUSBAND did not ask this question. Therefore, you must a) have faith that your marriage will turn out to be good, and that your husband is a good man b) be loyal to what he does and help him out instead of fight him. When you have faith, loyalty follows, so it's only natural that you'll have to beat the faith into yourself (and your husband should too, but he's not asking this). To help your husband gain more faith in the marriage, show him loyalty. Eventually, faith will mature into a strong bond of trust. Basically, the more faith you have in your other partner, the more loyal you will become towards him/her, and your actions will give him more faith and so on... When one does not have faith, their actions portray disloyalty, and so the relationship fails.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

You need to be more specific. What do you mean "deal" with them? Is it that your spouse isn't loyal and/or faithful or is it that you are having a problem with the two? Either way, both are a must in order to have a good marriage.

Answer 3

Loyality means sticking by somone no matter what. Loyality can be foolish at times.

Faithfulness is a long term commitment to give yourself only to that person that you promised yourself to.

Both of these words work hand in hand in a relationship. Although you can have a loyal person who sticks with an unfaithful partner. It is misplaced loyality. I wouldn't call that loyality I would call it foolishness.

Answer 4

faithfullness deals with a more emotional and loving conection than loyalty, someone can be faithfull to you as a partner and not mess around with anyone else, but may not always take your side in situations, thats where loyalty comes in