Asked me if I would start to take her kid to school each day. She has got a new job and cant go herself. I go there ayway with my kids, However she did say she would pay me, I took him all last week and shes not offered me a penny, I called at hers earlier to drop some hints but she didnt take me on, and shes expecting me to take him again tomorrow. I feel she is using me. What should I do?
2006-12-10 08:26:59 · 24 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Explain that you don't want the responsibility of another child to look after when you already have your own.
Say you're not a registered child minder therefore the situation can't go on as it is.
Alternatively, just "forget" to take the little darling one morning and she'll soon get the message.
2006-12-10 08:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not completely wrong. You are going that way anyways. Your being selfish but she is also wrong to tell you she would pay you. Did you ever think that she just started a new job and may be behind on bills and can't pay you right away? If it lasts for a few more weeks I think you should say something but if your not going out of your way I don't think you should worry about it too much. Don't the school bus run where you live?!
2006-12-10 08:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by asheslovesjoel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were offered money and they are not hinting at paying, you have two solutions: Tell them you can't take their kids for so and so reasons (liability, etc), or take the kids anyway, since there really is no additional marginal cost or effort for you to take a couple of kids more in your car (since you are going to the school ANYWAY).
Remember it is not all about money, be nice to others, I'm sure they are either having financial problems, but regardless your good deed will be repaid one way or another. We should all try to help each other out, specially if it so easy as in your case.
2006-12-10 08:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Helping out as a parent of children you know it is hard to do, But being taken advantage of is sad on her part.
If I was you, I would just come out with it and say, I am saving you alot of money by not sending your child to a day care before school, I really would appreciate any thing you could spare, I wouldn't ask if I didn't need it.
2006-12-10 08:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by calcalmr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all this is a child. Your going there anyway so it wouldn't hurt you to take along another child. Just think of it this way this lady is trusting you with her child. If she doesn't pay you o well you will be blessed for it in the long wrong.
2006-12-10 08:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by KELS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she said she'll pay you ask for a contribution in petrol money otherwise tell her to take the kid to school herself: you are not a charity case
2006-12-10 08:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lupee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try hinting about the gas prices rising and see if she takes the hint. If not, then I say be straight forward with asking for your money or make excuses in the mornings on why you can't take him to school.
2006-12-10 08:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Black Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Decide whether you are only doing it for the money or not.
You do not HAVE to do it, but as you are going anyway it is no great hassle, surely.
If you reaslly need the money, don't drop hints, say straight out that you expect her to honour her promise.
2006-12-10 08:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could since she offered ask her if she'll split the gas bill with you. After all, you are doing her the favor, and she offered. "Hi, since you offered to pay me to take ---to school in the morning I was wondering if you just wanted to just split the gas cost?" If she throws your going there anyway, then say "You're the one that offered to pay me, and your the one that needs the favor."
2006-12-10 08:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the money really that important if you're going anyway or is it the principle? A big favour like that can be returned! Maybe you and your hubby might like to go out one night and you can ask her to babysit your kid(s) as a return favour? Get your own back that way.
2006-12-10 08:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋