She never really liked me but since we got married its gotten worse(no he DID NOT leave her for me)She uses thier 7yr old mike like bait to control tom.Here are just SOME examples i am not allowed to watch mike alone,it tom is not there he is to go home to her.She has talked so badly about me to other parents none of mike's friends can come over to play.I can't have any contact with mike's school/teacher i can't even pick him up from school.She always trys to get tom to go to her parties that she is giving for mike even though we have our oun parties for him.i went once and her and her family sat there and glared at me to whole time,not fun.The worst part of this is tom allows this to happen.We fight over this all the time and he always says i can't control what she says.Thats true but he does not have to go along with "her rules" ether.They both have joint custody so doesn't he have a say?how can i handle this,tom will not stand up to her for anything so i'm on my own.
2006-12-10 08:20:59 · 3 answers · asked by kimmywoodward098 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my heart goes out to you. she is just being a bitter woman. so that you can forgive her on. as far as your step-son you have as much rights as she does when it comes to picking him up etc. if it is in the divorce decree that he can not have contact with anyone other than the parents, why did your husband marry you. he seems to be intimidated by her a lot. i understand that it is a little uncomfortable being around them at the parties,( i know an understatement) but you should continue to go. just because he is intimidated by her, means you shouldn't. explain to him that when we got married that we would stick by each other , that means us. and you must do something about it pronto. i would ask your husband what does she have over you? because if she can scare him like that then, he is not a grown man yet. and yes he does have a say in his child rearing. i guess she thinks you are going to fade away from the picture. please if you feel like fighting on this by all means fight her mentally. smile when you see her, glare back occasionally. but show your step son that no matter what you love just the same. start showing his friends parents that you are not the monster that she is portraying you as. i hope with all my heart that you get through to your husband. if not tell him how much he is hurting you. and please let me be apart of your life because you are my husband and i am your wife.. good luck , and i'll pray with you.
Nita
2006-12-10 09:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically your man needs a back bone. I have a blended family and fortunatley I get along with my ex and his wife. It has gotten diffucult in the past but Tom needs to grow some balls and open his mouth. If she doesnt comply go to court they will listen to everything that you and your husband has to say. Even tyhough you are a step mom you have rights to say stuff too.
2006-12-10 08:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her bring you down. You just can't. Tom is your husband and you have every right to pick up your husband's child. If this b*tch keeps bothering you then f*ck her up.
2006-12-10 08:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋