What can I do to improve my life?

Question

I have had a harsh time growing up. My whole childhood i got virbal and phisical abuse. I have to wait a couple more years before i can move out. All of my memories are of everyone getting beaten, things getting stolen, and etc. My mom became a drug addict and has stolen every dime she always leaves us without food,money,and a car. These events have made me so miserable leading to me becoming emo. I feel like i am worthless. My life is a bad one i might add. It makes my grades slip and everything. Both of my parents have told me they hated me and didnt want me. I want to improve this and come out of my dark depressed shell. HELP this has gone on far to long.

Answer 1

Do not become emo or depressed, if so you are succumbing and bowing down to whatever hardships you have faced. You need to stay strong and rise above it! It is imperative you get your grades up, it is the only ticket out of the life of poverty and misery. Start studying, work for straight A's before it is too late, if you already have significant bad grades on report cards straight b's or worse, in your high school classes then start now. High school grades are very important. If colleges, when the time comes, are not accepting you due to grades, or you simply cannot afford it(get scholarships and financial aid) go to community college and get STRAIGHT A's, this is perfectly possible. THen you may be able to go to college for free with scholarships. Or join the army to get money for college, or try cooking, fashion design, I do not recommend Vo Tech scool but if you want to go into one of the less academic careers try. Whether your parents want you or not you must rise above it. If you don't you may end up like your parents or in bad living conditions. It is your responsibility to stop this cycle and move on, grip your life and hold on tight. You can overcome this and laugh at your parents for making you feel worthless, go out and become something.

Answer 2

First of all, you are not worthless- it may seem like it because of the way that the people you are closest to treat you. Remember one thing- God loves you. This can sound trite- but in reality it is not. You do need to get some help from a professional especially if you feel your life is in danger. No one should love under the conditions that you are. I AM SO SORRY that your parents say that they hate you and did not want you. If you want to talk more privately please feel free to email me personally. I want to let you know that you are not alone.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

The funny thing about life is this: You can only control YOU. You aren't responsible for anyone else but yourself. It isn't your fault if your childhood sucked, it isn't your fault that your mom treats people like crap and does drugs. You can't control that. But you do have the ability to control one thing... and that is how you DEAL with all the crap that is happening to you and has happened to you. YOU get to make that choice. Only YOU can control how you react to things. If how YOU react to and deal with all of this bad stuff ends up putting you in the same situation as your mom...then you have no one to blame but yourself. Knowledge is power. Now that you have the knowledge, you have the power to make a change for the better.

It's time to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and think about what YOU can do to brighten your future. You already know that no one is going to do it for you. The first thing you can do is sit down and write down what you WANT to be. What kind of person do you want to be? What do you want to do? Be realistic. How can you get there? What resources are out there? Look for trends in your life that are hindering your progress. Are the people you hang out with really helping you?Are they helping you to accomplish your goals, or are they just part of your current pity party? Basically, figure out what you have to do to break UP the pity party and move forward.

When you have all of this stuff written down go to your guidance counselor or another adult you trust. Someone you know is smart and who you admire. Explain to them that things have been tough but you want to take responsibility for your future. You don't want to continue the crappy legacy of your family. You want to get away from this situation and you know that the only way you can do it is to actually get AWAY. Find out what you can do to bring your grades up. See if you can work with your teachers. Do what it takes to make YOURSELF proud of what you do. You already know that you aren't going to gain your parent's approval....but it doesn't matter. The only thing that matters now is YOUR self worth. Find the people around your area who are willing to work with you to help you become a strong and successful adult. They ARE out there. There are teachers, counselors, pastors, Big Brothers and Big Sisters, and many more who are willing to help you learn to make smart decisions in your life.

You can do all this. Your question is a bit on the emotional side...and I can tell you are tired of all the BS...but you aren't stupid by any means. You are definitely smart enough to make the choices that will pull yourself out of the mire. I know you have some time yet before you can move out, but you can still do things now to shape your future and make that transition easier. Do some of the things I outlined above. Once you have the ball rolling there and you are comfortable with how you are progressing I suggest you find yourself a job. Get a savings account IMMEDIATELY and start putting your paycheck into it. Never let your family gain access to your bank card, pin number, account number or checks. Never let them know how much you have saved, and never "loan" any of it to any of them. They might make you feel guilty, but just consider it payback for all of those times they have made you feel like crap. This is YOUR nest egg and will ultimately be your way to get out of that house and start your life when you turn 18. Don't spend on stupid things that you don't need. Brand-name clothes are for people who have no respect for hard work. Eventually, a time will come when you won't have to work so hard to have more...until then, use your head and don't let ANYONE walk on you.

Good luck! If you need any advice later on let me know(if you choose my answer as the best or not!)... just put it in your comment line and I will send you my email address. You can ask me anything you like and I will answer to the best of my ability. I know what it's like to have it hard. I've been there. I love my life now and am proud of who I've become. I want that for you, too....and anyone else who has "been there" as well.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Hang in there,when you move out,you'll be your own person and able to do anything you want.Just believe in yourself.