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Question

since i started my periods they have always been irregular. for four years they came every 2-3 months. then after that between 30-55 days.

after a year of using condoms with my partner we stopped using them as we wanted a family and decided to let nature take its course we just did the deed when we felt like it and we did it alot.

after a year and still not pregnant i started counting how many days were in my cycle and having sex around when i thought i ovd.

after 9 months we fnally got our wish and she was born 6 months ago.

we really want another baby but my cycles are still irregular. this cycle i dont think i have ovd as i am 15 days late and getting negative tests.

im seing my doctor for a blood test this week to be sure i'm not pregnant and if it is negative will he prescribe me anything (apart from the pill) to make my cycles regular again so we can hopefully concieve quicker.

or will he say we dont need it as we have our daughter?

also when i tellh im how long we were trying do i say 1 year 9 months as thats when we started having unprotected sex or 9 months as thats when i was counting my cycles and having sex when i thought i ovulated?

i do bbt and have used a fertility monitor this month.but i think that i was starting to ovulate (because the montior picked up the hormones) but i didnt release an egg. otherwise my period would of come or i should get a positve result)

the reason why we want snother baby so soon is coz both me and my fiance both had brothers born ayear apart and we are very close. all of my childrfen will get the all the attention that they need. i am a very loving mother and having kids is my life.

i ont want my daughter to be an only child as i have seen from friends how lonely it can be.

Answer 1

If your doctor tells you he won't help you because you already have a daughter, find another doctor.
I'm sure they will give you something to regulate your cycle so that you can plot your fertile days. There are also changes in vaginal mucus, temperature, etc. that will help you know your body so that you know when you ovulate. Find a good fertility clinic or doctor who specializes in this and you will conceive again.
Good luck! Hope you are a mommy again soon :)

Answer 2

Okay, so ... if I'm reading this right, you want to know 1) if your doctor will brush you off because you have a child, and 2) how long to say you've been trying.

If I missed a question in there email me or add more details ... I usually come back and read the questions again later.

1) No, your doctor shouldn't ignore your worries just because you already have a daughter. Lots of couples have what's called 'secondary infertility', meaning they easily had one child but have trouble with the second. Since you had trouble the first time he will take you even MORE seriously than a couple with secondary infertility. If he doesn't, find a new doctor because he's no good.

2) You have to tell him you'd been trying for 9 months. Honestly, having sex randomly isn't considered 'trying', it's just hoping. Now, it's sure not 'safe sex', but it's not actively trying to conceive, which is what he will mean when he asks how long you've been trying. You CAN say "nine months but we started having unprotected sex a whole year before I started keeping track of my fertility". He might take that into account. But regardless, he should start doing tests immediately because that's a long time and you have very irregular cycles. At the very least he should give you something to regulate them. If he doesn't, again, find a new doctor.

Good luck. I hope you actually don't have to discuss all that with him ... as in, I hope you're pregnant!

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that you have irregular periods and how awkward it can be when trying to get pregnant - we all take it for granted that it must be the easiest thing in the world to do. I used to suffer like you - managed to have a son and then they were back - I wanted to try and regulate my periods but as I am not allowed to take the pill I thought this was going to be a major problem but a doctor suggested I had a Mirena IUCD fitted. This contained a slow releasing hormone which is released from day one of insertion until the time it is removed - this can stay put for 5 years and then has to be changed. I had mine in place for 2 years and this stopped my periods altogether - I had it removed as I wanted another baby - about 3 months after having it removed I was pregnant with my youngest son. Speak to your practitioner about this or research it on the internet - just google MIRENA and you should get all the info you need - it does not work for everyone but it may be worth a try - what do you have to lose? Best of Luck

Answer 4

If you find out that you are not pregnant and wish to continue to trying I would purchase a ovulation prediction kit. If you have really long cycles I would try two so that you will have more days to test for the LH surge. This will tell you for sure if you are ovulating. When you get the surge go for it. I would try this for a couple months. If you are not successful see your physician. keep in mind that it can take a person who has regular cycles and no medical problems months to become pregnant.

Answer 5

The same thing is happening to me right now, but the docter said if you don't have your period for a long time, it becomes irregular. It will come back regularly after a year or so. It's just like when you first started having your period, it was irregular, right? You never had it before,right? Then it was consistent, the same thing applies to this. That doesn't mean to cancel your appointment, though. I could be wrong.

Answer 6

Ok well first of all if you have a six Month old at home I would strongly recommend waiting for her to turn at least one, (since it will probably take u sometime to conceive).

The little girl that u have deserves to be the only child and have those privileges before having a little brother or sister who is the new baby therefore gets all of mommy's attention (and newborns tent to demand most of our time. I've just seen children who at 14months or 18 months old has to adjust to no longer being the baby and having that attention.

In short, our children have a right to be the apples of our eyes and get that baby treatment until they begin to seek independence, around 2 or 3 and are old enough to know and understand what being an older sibling is about. Instead of perhaps developing a feeling of being pushed aside or neglected for the new baby.

This can turn into sibling jealousy which can develop into sibling rivalry.

Just let nature take it's corse like u did before and it will happen in due time it might take a year but ur baby will be walking by then and by the time it is born she;ll be walking almost out of diapers and she'll probably be into doing her own thing

Answer 7

I would tell your Dr. 9 months since that is when you actually started making a consious effort. He will probably tell you to wait atleast 6 months though to give your body plenty of time to recover from pregnancy and birth. Dr.s like you to wait a year between pregnancies.

Answer 8

it is not normal for woman see your dr and let him run some more tests on you to see if any thing is wrong with you