my husband is obcessed with looking at porn. he says he just watches it to get in the mood but he likes to wait till i go to bed to even look at it and i catch him masterbating when i wake up. How do I deal with this?
2006-12-10 07:54:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he acts like i'm disterbing him when i try to watch with him or ask him if he wants me to put on a show for him
2006-12-10 07:59:46 · update #1
I am sorry to have to say this but this is an addiction like being and alcholic or anger management. He needs help. It will destroy your marraige unless your like some people relationship that ignore their husband on that as long as they are rich. Seriously though, you need a heart to heart, try to figure out when this all started was he doing this when you guys got married than it is more serious than you think. It is definitely an illness and I hope you can get through this for the sake of your marraige. I know, I have been there. He said it was since he was bored and depressed however he got help and trusted in God for this soul debilitating disease.
Good Luck.
2006-12-10 08:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Saena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-24 18:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should watch it with him... Or give him a little suprise... I honestly think that too much porn is not healthy because I think it takes out the making love part and turns into kinky sex... Don't get me wrong about kinky sex but once in awhile just making love is nice and i think you need to talk to him about it because it may ruin ur relastionship! Becuase it may cause arguments... The best thing to do is have a good talk about it.
2006-12-10 08:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll go with your second answer. If he is addicted to the stuff, it just becomes worse. Mine got to the point that his computer room was called (even by him) "Fantasyland" and by the time I left, he was so addicted, there was no time in our marriage for me. Now I know why:
Addicts are already in a relationship -- it just isn't with you. Yea, you'll look at it with him, but really, in the end, he'll prefer it. Any counselor will tell you the condition is barely treatable, much less curable. Alcoholics who no longer drink will admit they are still alcoholics, just not presently drinking. At least you can stay married to a non-drinker...... Good luck, hon. How do you deal with it? donno. I left, got a divorce and found a real man.
2006-12-10 08:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn can be like anything else and people can become addicted. its normal to watch it though. a guy would be lying if he said he didnt, and so would alot of women.
however, if he needs it to get in the mood, that isnt good because he is dependent on it in order to get sexually excited.
2006-12-10 08:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start watching it on your own and let him catch you masterbating,what the hell.turn around is fair play,maybe then he may get the message,if not you have 3 choices.1 learn to live with it and accept it or, 2 kick his butt out and make him go to counseling to get back in.3 kick his butt out and divorce him.
2006-12-10 08:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Marie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to stop his obsession. Not that I even agree with watching porn, but anything in excess in not good.
2006-12-10 08:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to worn him out
if not stay a wake with him and tel him u want to watch porn too
dont give up stay there until he gives up and go to sleep
2006-12-10 08:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by redscorpionhot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try wathing it with your husband a little bit?! You actually might have fun, instead of being annoyed with him. Or maybe give him a little pleasure of your own? Tell me what happens!
2006-12-10 08:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
download a dude to the screensaver and put the words. two can do it on it. that might send a clear message. besides, he don't want you to watch with him, he wants you to "assist" him while he watches. man, I wish I had you for a wife! lol
2006-12-10 10:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Akela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋