After I found out that my husband has 2 month old twins with another woman he has suddenly turned away even from our kids.He's gone all day and when the kids run to meet him on return he turns them away.When I tell him they just miss him his response his "and so what"
Someone told me that the way he's behaving it sounds as though the other woman has really got her nails in good.Soon enough she'll be asking for the house?All this is a bit too much for me and I am getting really scared
2006-12-10 07:47:00 · 21 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he feels guilty about what he has done and is trying to push everyone away....trying to blame them for his problems when it was him. She has not stake on your house so down worry...only thing she can get is childsupport_
2006-12-10 07:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. First of all, I want to say that I am very sorry this happened to you ... I know you've probably heard that many times, but I really am. But please consider just leaving him. I know you have children with him, but it is better for them if they do not know just what is going on right now. Do you have family for support?
If you realize what an idiot and a liar this man is, you will see that you deserve better. And I can bet than in six months, you will look back and wonder why you ever let someone treat you this way. Just accept that he is not a good guy and find someone better--someone who will be the person you need. You HUSBAND has twins with another woman??? Please do not stay with this cheater because you can do much better. And your happiness is important to your children.
2006-12-10 07:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband acted pretty much the same way when l found out he had been cheating on me. If he is acting very cold towards you and his children it is just his way of dealing with his guilt . Although my children are older l guess and he was fine with them just a little distant. She may also have her claws in him though so be weary. My husbands other thing ( woman ) had her claws in good also. I won out in the end though and you can too !! If you really want him you must fight her every step of the way. If he loves you at all, he will come to his senses eventually. She may get child support but she will never get your house, so don't be at all worried about that !! and if you don't want your husband, she may get him also but he will always have a place in his heart for you and his children so she will never fully have him. The only thing you have to worry about is yourself and your children, making sure you all stay happy and strong !!! He needs to sort out his own problems. Just make sure that you are there for him when he does need to talk about it, as l am sure that he will. That is ofcourse if it is what you want also. I wish you the best of luck as l know it is not easy for you. Don't stress too much, hopefully he will come to his senses before things get too much worse. Remember she may have his babies but she does not have him yet !!! You can stop that from happening, you just have to be strong !!!
2006-12-10 08:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he don't start being a dad to your kids again and appreciates what he as to come home to every day then tell him to go and live with the other woman if she will have him. as for the other woman she will not get your home so don't stress over that issue as it belongs to you and your husband and as he cheated and your with the kids it will be yours if he chooses to leave. be strong for your kids let them know you are there for them. maybe your husband is waiting for you to give him an automation. sit down and ask him why he done it and ask him what he wants the next steps to be if you want to work it out there will be tough times but it can happen just work on it, but if that is not what you or him want them make him go but say he can see the kids cause they still need a dad.
2006-12-11 00:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juseve dont worry he cant push you and the babs out so stop worrying about that but thats not a man you married he's not even grown up so give him help to go to the other woman and you'll realise what you got shot of if you meet a good guy thats treats you with respect you deserve
2006-12-13 05:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your PROBLEM, Really.
YOU have to do something NOW, like talk to an attorney and get rid of HIM NOW!
What is going on is having a HUGE negative affect on your KIDS and it will NOT get better if you just ignore it.
I am guessing that your KIDS are young and they will quickly recover in a healthy family.
THERE IS NO REASON THAT YOU SHOULD ACCEPT HIS BEHAVIOUR, NO REASON!
Get an attorney TOMORROW! I am sure you can find one that will take care of you pro bono (free) under the circumstances if your husband controls the finances.
DO NOT move out of the house, DO NOT! If you have to get a restraining order and put HIS STUFF in the drive-way do it.
Sorry and GOOD LUCK,
Jacques
2006-12-10 07:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by jacquesstcroix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a lawyer and make sure that this home-wrecker doesn't take your house from you. You owe it to your kids to give them a roof over their heads. Email me if you want to know more legal action you can take.
As for your husband you need to figure out if you can still save your marriage, i doubt you can because he has kids with this other women and now they're tied to each other forever.
Some people are right, whatever you do do not move out of your house. Once you move out the other women can move in and some lawyers will spin that as desertion.
2006-12-10 07:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Wyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up and smell the coffee love!!!!
when is it gonna sink in he was unfaithful (im sure more than once)
you come on here like talking away like hes just a bit late home from work or something!!!
never mind about the house... what about the well being of yourself and YOUR kids?
have some self respect and tell him to leave. he clearly doesnt care if he speaks to the kids in that manner.
and see a solicitor or the CAB.
fast.
2006-12-10 09:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know where you live but if it's England she doesn't stand a chance of getting your house. The courts always go in favour of the little one's best interests. You can keep your house until they are 18 minimum. If they go on to college or university it'll be longer. You have a duty to keep their home for them according to the law. I'd tell him to sling his hook if I were you and move on while you are young enough, the B doesn't deserve you or your bairns. xx
2006-12-10 07:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the phrase 'keep me only unto thee' ring any bells? He broke your marraige contract long ago, you are no longer obligated to him. Probably he chose you because he knew the religion thing would keep you tied up in knots that much longer.
If you have any doubts over this see (in strict order) your vicar, Relate Guidance in England -who will help you see where you need to go next, and a lawyer/solicitor.
2006-12-10 07:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋