My boyfriend acts like he doesn't want me to have a life besides him.I used to go out with friends all the time now when I try to make plans he makes up something we have to do together or he puts down my friends calling them white trash,losers,etc.I love him and don't want to break up but how do I make him see I need a life besides him.(I think he's paranoid because his ex cheated on him)
2006-12-10 07:45:37 · 15 answers · asked by J♥R♥R 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like your BF is a very selfish person. Let me tell you about selfishness, it destroys love it never allows it to grow. Tell him if he cares about ur feelings like u care about his , he will stop controlling you like your his property and start treating you like his soulmate. Whatever happened to honoring , respecting and caring for your signifigant other?
2006-12-10 07:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too controlling! Do not allow a guy to take you away from your friends- they are the ones that will be there after he is long forgotten.
Be aware- a man who tries to control who you are around may get more aggressive later. Watch for signs and protect yourself!
2006-12-10 07:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by betsyssi2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it's friends.............if you let it continue, it will turn into family!!
He's controlling. You surely don't need that in your life.
Dump him. Love, real love will be found again, right around the corner. But before stting off for new love, enjoy these friends you want to be doing things with for awhile.
2006-12-10 07:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old you are...but tell him how you feel and if he doesn't come around or try to make things better...there really are more fish in the sea. Don't waste your time if it isn't going to work, the right one could be out there...especially if you are teen.
2006-12-10 07:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sihaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really mean. you should tell him that what he is doing is disrespectful. that he isnt the only one in the whole entire world that can have a good time with people they care about. your friends are your friends to mock and play around with for fun. mainly there yours to claim as. not his. if he doesnt want to be nice then dont let him hang around them. set down some rules. tell him "look sweetie i love you but if your gonna be rude to my friends then we cant have those special nights together like you want us to. i love my friends and care about them very much. and i care about you too. but you cant be talkin about my friends like they belong to you. there not your children nor are they your property. how would you like it if i called your friends the same things u call mine." put him in a possition where it will stop him dead in his tracks. if he does it again, walk off with your friends and then turn around and see if he follows. if looks sad then gesture him to follow but tell him not to say anything to them.
2006-12-10 07:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by shanice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just really likes you and wont's to spend all the time in the world with you and is vary lonely without you. I bet he loves you very much just tell him you need friends to and so dose he.
2006-12-10 07:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my boyfriend.
he just wants attention. try inviting him to go along with you and your friends every once in a while and DIFFIDENTLY talk to him about what he is doing and saying about your friends. if he truly loves you, he wouldn't talk about your friends; he would respect them.
2006-12-10 08:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a scrub. Dump him.
2006-12-10 07:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by =) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2006-12-10 07:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by jrtcpa@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get rid of him . i had an ex partner like that
2006-12-10 07:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by vickivickilovevicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋