I am tired of feeling like a third wheel when it comes to hanging out with my friends and their girlfriends, i am the the only single guy out of a 4-male group, all of whom have girlfriends at present and for reasons unknown to myself i don't have a girfriend to maintain this balance and it gets frustrating when they all start acting lovey-dovey around me.
anyone else in a similiar situation?
2006-12-10 07:25:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First, I have to ask are you gay or bi? You are asking this in the wrong section if not. Secondly, if you feel uncomfortable being around them then invite a friend to come along with you so you dont feel like you are intruding when you are with them. Third, being single isnt all that bad.
2006-12-10 07:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it always feels awkward when your friends are in couples and you're not, and there's nothing much you can do. You'll feel left out when you're with them, and left out when you're not. and people's social lives change when they get into steady relationships too.
But just think: you'll be the one they come to for a shoulder to cry on when something goes wrong, or for someone to vent to when their partner pisses them off, or even to babysit if they have kids...
Oh, no, wait - sorry, I was meant to be trying to make you feel better, wasn't I?
I wish I had an answer, but life sucks sometimes. All you can do is express to them (hopefully in a non-nagging way) how you feel, and hope they have the decency to save some time for you. If they're good friends, they won't want you to feel left out.
2006-12-10 07:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to start some new friendships with friends who are single like you. I have felt that way before when I realized all my friends were married. So I started making a couple new friendships with single girls like me and now it doesn't bother me. What are your interests? Find clubs or groups or a church or sport team with similar interests and you'll make friends that way. Another idea, do any of your friends' girlfriends have cute single friends they can bring along too? Maybe you can meet a cute girl that way.
2006-12-10 07:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by LM S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, its not a fun thing to be, but if you did have a girlfriend, you would be doing the same thing, dont blame your pals for being in love, just make time for yourself seperately. Go hang out with other people sometimes or by yourself, before long you will find someone too. Also, why did you post this in Gay/Lesbian section?
2006-12-10 07:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might want to branch out on your own and do some 'investigating' on your own.
Especially after some alcohol... couples often get lovey-dovey... it just goes with the times.
2006-12-10 07:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by guicoder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in that situation so many times, i am usually not that uncomfortable if it is a big group of people, but if it is just me and another couple i hate it.
2006-12-10 07:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man try to find out a good one for you
2006-12-10 07:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out more often with single friends.!!
2006-12-10 09:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by deb s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, sucks huh? find some new friends for right now, or try to break some of them up. lol
2006-12-10 07:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find a GF because you want to have one and you like her, not to keep up with the Jonses.
2006-12-10 07:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋