I work with a girl who is a similar age to me and i'm really physically and emotionally attracted to her but not sure if she is to me. we hold eye contact for a long time and always seems to want to pull on my cap (i wear a hat at work) she teases me alot about mainly sexual things about men(i'm not out and to pretty much everyone, i'm straight)
and the other day she was singing a song about kissing someone, and i looked up and she said with a smile, not you unless you wanna go out the back! I'm really confused one moment she can be quite nice and the next she ignores me completely. She always seems really happy to see me when i turn up to work. what do you think? any advice would be appreciated
2006-12-10 07:22:05 · 16 answers · asked by misssanta 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi. I am lesbian too. Sounds right to me, but you are not going to learn much at work. Too hectic. Ask her out for a coffee sometime after work or a drink at the pub. Just a friendly chat. You will soon discover what you want to know.
2006-12-10 07:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What you don't say is how old you are? Yes it does make a difference. If you are not out? (for obvious reasons) then chances are that she is also confused about what she is feeling. It does sound like she is flirting with you, but I would advise you to hold off at the moment, and continue to be the good friend that you are. Enjoy the stage of getting to know someone first, if it progress's then it is a bonus. If you can build a relationship on a friendship, you have a much better chance of surviving. Also you can enjoy her company etc. I know you know what I mean, if you want to talk further email me.
2006-12-10 07:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her what she meant by going out the back. Also, maybe she ignores u some days because she may be thinking you dont like her in the way she likes you. I have a gut feeling that she does like you. Dont leave her thinking that you dont like her for too long eh.
Ask her out for a drink sometime, or anywhere else you might have in mind. If you like her then go for her before someone else snatches her up.
2006-12-10 08:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably has no clue that you are gay, and may act differently towards you if she did, the best way would be not to tell her of your feelings for her, but to just mention that you like girls. Then if she still acts the same towards you you can take it as an invitation to ask her out.
2006-12-10 07:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find that out is to go with a flow if she likes you you are gonna find out eventually wether she just tells you or she just tries to have sexual contact with you. just give it some time and soon enough you will know
2006-12-10 09:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by ki-ki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many men work there , it could be that she could be trying to get male attention with pretending to swing both ways but she geneuinely like you and doesnt realise ur sexulaitity best way to get anything done about this is to staright out say something then yoiu both knw where yiu stand Chances are you might be happily surprised .
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-10 07:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by sm 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Why dont ya ask her out for a bite to eat at lunch and have a chat, then ask her sneakily if she's with anyone, and if not why? You might find out she's been with girls before, worth a try
2006-12-13 08:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to ask her to go grab a beer or something after work and see what happens.
2006-12-10 07:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you are really physically attracted to her... you are not completely straight.
A pleasant conversation over a cocktail after hours is a chance to get on the same route... and bring things out in the open.
Clearly you are not offended by her advances... she may also be shy... or game playing...
2006-12-10 07:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by guicoder 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
careful you are not reading things into it,because you fancy her, ask her out for coffee/lunch etc and take it from there, the work enviroment is not an ideal place
2006-12-10 09:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Croeso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋