Is it normal for a teenager to always appear angry and miserable?

Question

I am wondering if a lot of you think it is a normal 'phase' for a teenager to always appear angry and more importantly; blame their parent(s) for everything and anything that is going or has gone wrong wrong for them so far in life?

**today my sister exploded at my parents when they told her to do she could go out.and said.."you're everything that's wrong with me!" I don't remember ever being this way, and so I started chuckling, then the viper turned on me and calle me a bitc*h..I was appalled..I can't imagine why she would be so angry about.

she's usually sweet but the past few months..she's turned into a bedroom dwelling creature..won't eat dinner with us and is just super mean for no reason..How should I talk to her?

sometimes I am as rude to her as she is too me even worse..to show her hoe it feels..is this a good method. for her bitchiness.or am I being insensitive..?

Answer 1

Teenagers, up until they are about 17 or 18 have not yet fully developed the reasoning part of their brains, so they behave like, well, children, which they still are, often still expressing their emotions through temper tantrums, unable to fully verbalize their true feelings. She may be feeling constrained if she is not being allowed to do all the things she think she'd like to do, many of which she probably doesn't realize aren't good for her or are too dangerous.

Still, it's smart to try to delve a little deeper and try to find out if there is something specific that's bothering her, or if she is going through clinical depression. Just because she can't yet reason doesn't mean that you and your parents can't.

Answer 2

Yes,.. it's normal. Their bodies are betraying them. They might feel the same constantly as a person does for only a moment during a nervous break down. They never seem to get a break because they are trapped in their bodies. They are not an adult and not a child and can't get everyone to always treat them one way or the other. Basically everything is working against them,.. if they were a child they would get things and things would be easier... people would help and do things for them,... if they were an adult they would be allowed to do things, get things and control their fate.

To them,.. their parent owns them,.. right? The parent has control of their fate. The parent doesn't let them have fun,.. but the Teenager does not understand the threats they may face during the course of this fun. I could think of more examples but they don't entirely mean it when they blame their parents for everything. They know it's not everything,.. just most of their plans and life (or what they think they could do and the fantasy of what they will accomplish) is ruined by their parents.

Added: Sounds like something is on her mind. You cannot talk it out of her. The only thing you can do is reminise on your Teenage years and hope something makes her ears perk up. She won't thank you, she will be annoyed more,.. she doesn't feel like talking then she won't. If I were you the best thing you could do is take her on a vacation like to a movie or an activity she likes or get her her favorite treat. That's the limits. You can say your open to talking and all that,... but some teens don't want to talk,.... nothing they or you can do.

Added2: No,.. that's not a good method. That just makes her body produce more chemicals and her attitude get worse. Fanning the Fire and all that. It also shows your a bit immature or didn't learn as much as you could have from your adolesense.

My mom's boyfriend gets like that,.. he WANTS TO BE AN ARIES,.. not that that means anything to you. He tries to be the center of the universe and if he isn't then he has to break into your depression and sadness and make it worse. Let's put it this way... I had an accident,.. he ignored it because that would put attention on me,.. if you are very sick he gets very loud to be louder then the vomiting,.. if you get hurt he tries to make it worse so he can be remembered and blamed for it,.. my mom had knee surgery so he sat on her knee and forced it the wrong direction to try to mess it up,.. and when we have a death in the family he rants about it and how great it is they died and blah blah blah.

You need to learn to not do that any more. It makes you the worst person in every building. People will hate you,.. and you will be "the idiot", "the jerk", or "the moron". So avoid that and try to train yourself to stop,.. it's very bad for EVERYONE and makes you lower then worthless to people.

[The SmartAlec & Expected responce would be " Whose the Grown Up T/Here?"]

Answer 3

I think it is normal, and that a lot of teenagers (maybe not all of them) go through a phase and will get depressed or angry, or sometimes stressed. There is a lot of drama in High School.

Answer 4

If I were u, I wouldn't pass it off completely as that. Just to be on the safe side u should try to hash it out. The "blame game" is one of the
norms but the way ur makin it sound...do they ever threaten suicide
or mention of death? Could be deeper....just make sure ur open enuf to listen when they refuse to talk.

Answer 5

yes. i am a teenager and i know that these years are difficult, because some losers are so immature. **** off your miserable reality and color your life. don't blame your parents because they do it all for your good. yes, it's normal, but if it lasts for too long, then the teen can become suicidal. sad but true. fix your heart, live your dreams, laugh a lot, don't give a ****. life's a dream, you must live it. these years are difficult, but you can make it all easier if you really want to. stay away from ******* assholes and stay with the one you love.

Answer 6

Yes it is called the terrible teens similar to the terrible twos

Answer 7

Yes. You do sometimes get glimpses of the person they are struggling to become if you pay close attention.

Answer 8

youre obviously a very worried parent. wondering when there child is going to snap out of their spiritual funk. well you can either repetedly confront your child about their dillema, or you can do nothing and merely hope that the problem works itself out.
although the first option sounds undoubtedly more appeling, the second option usually works best.

Answer 9

Yes, unfortunatly it's normal.

Answer 10

Its called PMS and happens during puberty, people who have this (mostly girls) have mood swings and get angry, then sad very fast etc.