I took the advice from last week and decided to play 20 questions with this girl I am totally attracted to-I was scared to ask if she was attracted to me so we just kept it simple. We talk everyday and night. Lastnight she came over and we always find ways to touch each other-like playing in the bed but nothing serious. I have a strong feeling we both like each other but I just can't tell her. I have never been attracted to a girl before and the thought of it scares me-but I want to kiss this girl soooooo bad. I'm not attracted to other females-ONLY HER!!!!! I need some advice on how to know for sure if she is feeling me....I WANT HER SOOOO BAD!!!
2006-12-10 06:54:50 · 6 answers · asked by curious girl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First, calm down about the labels. For females, sexual preference is often about the individual, not the group, so the fact that you're attracted to this one person shouldn't really bother you. Maybe as you go on down this road you'll find yourself attracted to more females, maybe not, but either way a label will just get in the way.
Second, I definitely agree that there's something mutual going on. If you're playing around in a bed past a certain age, it's not just playing anymore; there's a reason. As far as knowing for sure, you never will until you either ask or act. I'd suggest asking since there's less downside; if the answer's a no, you can probably manage the damage control better if it's part of a conversation rather than something you do that you can't take back. I do have a suggestion as to how you can broach the subject. After one of your bed-bound snuggle-fests, ask her this question: "Do you think other girls do this?" It's pretty harmless, but it should get the ball rolling in the right direction.
2006-12-10 08:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by kevin2760 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like you're bisexual or bicurious- it sounds like you have a crush on someone who happens to be a girl. If you liked other girls, then you might be- as is, just liking this one, I don't think you are.
If you're playing in the bed together and spend lots of time together and all that, then I have to say she's probably feeling you, at least a little bit. That just seems like a given.
Good luck with her!
2006-12-10 07:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first answerer.. if this girl is willing to climb into bed and fool around with you, then she's definitely intersted in you. although neither of you may actually be bi, there seems to be some mutial curiousity between the two of you.
have a chat with her about the fooling around you have done, and tell her you enjoyed it and want to know if she'd be interested in taking things a bit further. give it a shot. go for it!
2006-12-10 07:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much what to call yourself.
Sounds like you are already on the path to "that moment" where you to find out what's what with you.
Sounds like my first encounter. Then again, I just went up and kissed her. LOL
2006-12-10 07:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to go on faith alone on this one and dive right in. There is no other way around it.
Or create a fake screen name ask the same question and have her read it and see what she thinks :)
2006-12-10 07:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by FIRE § 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be both when your curious you just want to know what its like but when your bisexual you know what its like. Just go with the flow of things sit down and talk to her about it one day. just be honest with her and see how she takes it she doesnt seem like the type to reject you so dont let that be a problem at all just talk to her like you know best to do.
2006-12-10 09:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by ki-ki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋