Eloping will solve problems?????????

Question

My bf and i were together 2 yrs then broke up for 6 months and started talking being friends again 3 months ago we are getting back together as off last night.Problems before mainly stemed from his mother hating me and causing fights between us.Since we were engaged before when the break up occured he thinks to solve problem with his mom disliking me that we should just elope and present ourselves as a married couple at christmas.?I love my bf and do want to marry him just not sure if eloping is answer. anyone been through this?

She even had the nerve to tell him i was no good and that he should date an italian girl not a spanish girl ect.

Answer 1

Eloping and being presented as his wife is NOT gonna win momma's love! If anything there will be more resentment from her for not being included in wedding plans, etc. If you love your BF and want to marry him, reaching some sort of common ground with the would be in-laws is part of the package. Give it time and let her see just how good you are for her son and she may come around. She could also continue disliking you. If that is the case, then it is time for your BF to have a talk with his mom and set some rules about how she treats you. She has to at least be polite, right? Good luck!

Answer 2

no i have not been in this problem b-4 but i think i can help u. My advice is not 2 elope but it is up 2 u in the end so, here is my reason why not 2 elope because once u r married and his mother finds out its going 2 b even more problems because lets say u get n a very big fight and that leads 2 a divorce and in the end she is going 2 get her way. because when u r just bf and gf yal can get right back 2gether but its different when u r married its going 2 b very hard 2 get back 2gether because its his mom and it doesn't matter if u get married because she is still going 2 b there and it doesn't matter how much he loves u he is probably going 2 listen 2 his mom because its his mom and he is going 2 do anything 2 keep her happy!!!!!



I hope i helped u but if i didn't sorry:(

Answer 3

Eloping is not going to solve the problems between you and his family. It may solve some but will create others. He needs to stand up to his mother and tell her to stop her crap. She may not like you, but you two are going to be together so if she wants to see him and any future grandchildren, she will grow up and accept you.

Eloping will make having the wedding and everything that comes with that easier if you are willing to deal with all of the problems afterward and you two are determined to be together no matter what his mom says and feels.

Answer 4

YOU AND YOUR BF SHOULD GET MARRIED THE RIGHT WAY , NOT ELOPING THAT IS NOT GOING TO MAKE YOUR FUTURE MOTHER IN LAW LIKE YOU ANY BETTER. YOU AND YOUR BF NEEDS TO SIT HER DOWN AND TELL HER EXACTLY HOW IT IS, THAT YOU TWO ARE IN LOVE AND THERE IS NOTHING SHE CAN DO ABOUT IT, TELL HER THAT YOU WOULD LOVE HER TO BE AT YOUR WEDDING, BUT IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GO TELL HER THAT IS HER LOST AND YOUR DOING IT ANYWAYS WITH OR WITH OUT HER. IF YOUR LOVE IS TRUE IT WILL LAST THROUGH ANYTHING. CONGRADULATIONS ON THE COMING UP WEDDING,

Answer 5

Does your boyfriend think that by surprising his mother with an elopement she's going to adore you? Uh, uh. Mommy Dearest is going to blame you for dragging her little boy off to get married. If you think she hates you now, just wait.

Your boyfriend needs to grow a pair and stand up to his mother. If she cannot at least accept you and be civil to you, then your boyfriend shall tell her goodbye. And if he cannot make her behave, then you are better off without both of them.

Answer 6

You are right. Eloping is not going to change your mother in law's feeling towards you. You and your boyfriend have only each other to please. No one else. Good luck.

Answer 7

I am going to be short and sweet. NO dont do it. It will only cause more.