My best friend is married has kids and was having affair with his girl friend in office who is also married and has kids... Now the girl wants to leave him and become faithful to her husband , but my friend has truely loved her and cannot leave her nor forget her .. He has done everything for her and spend all his money, belongings and slogged for her day and night . and now the girl wants to back out , but she just says that she loves him ... he asked my guidance... what is the best solution .
2006-12-10 06:16:11 · 14 answers · asked by akhtar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what a loser of a friend, you should pick better friends. that is my advice.
2006-12-10 06:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For him to wake up and go back to his wife and decide if he wants to be married or not. If so, then keep his pecker in his pants unless it's point at his wife...if not, then get a divorce and he can play with any (single) person he wants (that wants to play with him).
He's not a kewl guy, and an idiot besides for spending money and losing belongings on a married chick (even if he wasn't married).
Tell him to consider it a lesson learned, and hope the karma that's coming his way isn't TOO bad...maybe what occured is actually a part of it.
2006-12-10 06:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own opinion, she is using him. He has a family, alot of people are not that lucky. If his wife found out, quite possibly,
he will not have his family any more, and the girlfriend, will be with her husband....So, where does that leave him? Maybe it is the sex.....that happens...Golly, he wants to give up his own children for that......
If she really loved him, she would get a divorce, and he also...
Best solution..stay with the wife, at least until the children are grown, and on their own. No way, with that girl...she wants her cake and eat it also......
2006-12-10 06:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will have to leave her, if that is what she wants, or be a stalker and suffer those consequences. How can he be so in love with one woman while still married to another one??? Sounds like someone is not being true to themselves. Why in this world do some people spend so much of their energy worrying about someone who doesn't want them??? Maybe he is just in love with being in love.
2006-12-10 06:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lana P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like "your friend" needs to do some growing up. An affair is just stupid, you can lose everything. If it isn't worth staying around for, then see a lawyer and file for divorce. You cannot have the proverbial cake and eat it too.
2006-12-10 06:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by boxersgirlbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I've been through something simular to your friend's case. Its just I didn't physically have an affair. Mine was emotional. But which ever way you see it, its still cheating. I had a problem letting go of a gentleman that I had met over the internet. We had so much in common and even though I was married and he was getting married, we couldn't find this uncany attraction towards us. This man was the first man I've ever told outside my marriage I loved him. I meant it at the time and things were getting too close for comfort and he was questioning his love for his fiance and i was really questioning my love for my husband. In the end, both of us decided to go back to the people we've been with and know us and that's what the girl is doing. Even though they have been together there is something within her marriage she feels is worth saving. The more he tries to step in that the more she's going to resent it and up and leave. Trust me I know. Because even though we decided to go back to our lovers, i still wanted him around and he said in order for us to make this work we have to end this completely and he left. At first it hurt like someone actually took out my heart. But over time, I thank him and would if I could. It helped not only rekindle my love for my husband and see him in a different light, but it rekindled my love and trust in God. Ever marriage has their ups and downs, but its up to the individual whether its worth saving and rekindling. He has to weight it out not just in him heart and mind, but in the whole out look. He has kids and their welfare is up in the scale as well. I had kids and when I thought about leaving I had to think about how the kids would react to me doing this to their father, when it was clear they loved him dearly. I had to come to the realization if I left, I had to deal with all that it implied and that was the hurt, betrayal, bitterness from him and my kids and the families and so on and so forth. If he can't deal with it then I say work on it and work it will all your effort and might. If he can just walk away and be fine with it then that's a final decision only he can make. But he can't look at it like its going to be easy because he would be lying to himself. But with this girl, I know its hard but he's got to let her go or she will just do it for him and then he will not have no other choice but to back off or worse she could bring it out in the open and if that happens is he prepared. He needs to think about this long and hard. Sometimes its cheaper to keep her and easier to let a temporary thing go.
2006-12-10 06:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by Friendly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not own her and if she wants to call it a day then he has to let her. He should spend his money on his wife and children and not another woman. Ps I am a bloke.
2006-12-10 06:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend should have been faithful to his wife from the start, and there is nothing wrong with this girl for wanting to be faithful to her husband.
2006-12-10 06:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happen to the married vow you both are pathetic keep your nose on your face what youre dear abby what about his wife and kids i hope his girl friend burn him
2006-12-10 06:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm and why did he get married? marriage is a promise to stay true to one another, tell him to confess to his wife. perhaps they should not be married if he cant keep it in his pants
2006-12-10 06:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be spending his money on his wife and kids, not another woman
2006-12-10 06:18:29 · answer #11 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋