my partner and i havent had sex since i fell pregnant we have done other things but not sex i am 6 months gone and the lack of sex is causing arguments between us.
2006-12-10 05:56:03 · 17 answers · asked by cheekybluebed 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, it is normal to go off sex when pregnant and your partner should be less selfish. He will not explode without it and can always do it by himself although not so exciting. It is time he realizes you are becoming a mother and should understand you better.
2006-12-10 06:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it your decision or his to not have sex? Sometimes being pregnant, with all the hormonal changes and morning sickness, the mother may not feel sexy any longer. Sometimes the man may feel that he might injure the baby if he wants to have sex with the mother. Occasionally, the man may not be attracted to the woman's changing body. It all depends on the reason for the lack of sex. However, be assured that sex will not injure the baby in any way unless there is a condition that the doctor has warned the mother about previously. Sex will not cause a miscarriage in a normal pregnancy, it will not cause damage to the baby, and the baby is not aware of the act therefore it will not damage the baby emotionally. There is no reason not to have sex unless your doctor has warned you against it. Therefore, talk to you partner and find out what his reluctance is, or tell him what your reluctance is. Ninety percent of a healthy relationship is communication.
2006-12-10 14:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by writergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it varies for different women and you certainly wouldn't be the first woman to feel like this! I find that some days I feel very sexy and other days I just want some personal space.
It's understandable that it is causing some arguments. In the long term, it could be quite detrimental to your relationship. After all, you probably won't feel like sex for a while after the baby is born and then you could find yourself in the position of not having sex for a year! It won't hurt the baby, it's how your baby got here! Just try to make some time for you and your partner and see how you get on.
2006-12-11 03:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position as you. I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant and me and my partner haven't had sex since i was 9 weeks as i had a bit of scare and started bleeding so it put me off. however my sex drive has started to come back now. it is perfectly natural to go off sex. just sit down with your partner and have a talk and explain how you feel at the moment. he should understand that your body is going through alot of changes at the moment and one minute you can feel on top of the world and the next really emotional. you are probably having trouble getting comfy at night as well so that's going to make you tired and grumpy. i hope everything goes well for you. take care and good luck. xxx
2006-12-10 14:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex doesn't always feel good for pregnant woman. Just sit your partner down and explain that you just don't feel like it. Orgasm causes cramping in some pregnant women which can be painful and scary. Sex can be uncomfortable in many positions. And your hormones are everywhere so you might not feel sexy.
It's normal...Just talk to your partner.
2006-12-12 11:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by barbiefreak518 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to not want sex during pregnancy but it is also natural to want lots of sex while pregnant. Some women hate the idea, others can't get enough. Both are normal.
As for your partner, maybe you could try and understand his feelings and put in a litle effort for him, maybe oral sex or a handjob?
2006-12-10 14:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not feel to interested but having sex will not hurt the baby and will feel good for the both of you. It will go a long way to keep the two of you close during this time
2006-12-10 13:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by nekogoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always feel unsure about sex in pregnancy, just concerned will harm or cause problems. But just read in Emma's diary small booklet given by my midwife, that having sex and orgasms actually made more oxygen go to the placenta so good for u.
2006-12-12 06:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel exactly te same!, at the moment Id rather have a good cup of tea than a bad shag!, not that my partner is crap in bed! Its just can feel the baby moving when I do have sex.
2006-12-10 14:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your partner should understand what your going through at the moment. it is natural to go off sex. what woman wouldn't. you feel unattractive,big,tired and your hormones are all over the place. he's very selfish if he can't respect you at this special time in both your lifes. hope all goes ok xx
2006-12-13 05:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋