Just need to know what makes a good mum in court for custody!!
2006-12-10 05:46:59 · 17 answers · asked by jaws 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only thing is the children and i live with my parents they have schools and doctors close by. Friends
2006-12-10 05:48:25 · update #1
That's a good start. Are you a working mom? Make sure you keep meticulous records of doctors visits, immunizations. School report cards. Any extra curricular activities. Any baby sitters? Have all of the information available. Don't go out drinking at night, don't hang around in bars. Don't bring men home. Keep the house clean. Keep the fridge stocked, and the clothes clean. Good luck.
2006-12-10 05:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing that children need most (well apart from love) is routine. They have a school nearby, a loving family, they'll have their own friends at school etc. Dinner will be served at a certain time, they know their boundaries, what they can and can't get away with. You need to make the court realise that if they lose all of that it will disrupt their lives. It could even go in your favour that you live at your parents house as you have a stronger support network. I'm not sure where you're from but in the UK it comes down to the welfare and well being of the children not living arrangements.
2006-12-10 05:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it gets that far as to a custody hearing, The courts could order an investigator from health and human services or whatever it is called in your state to do interviews with you, your children and visit the home where you are living. If indeed you are a good mom, I am sure you must have friends to verify this. Maybe split custody could work for your situation. In my divorce the kids stayed with me 4 nights and their dad 3 nights a week. We lived in the same town which made it easier for the kids. I never wanted my kids to have to grow up in a situation of not seeing one parent only every other weekend. In my situation it was the best thing for the kids. Think of the kids not yourself.
2006-12-10 05:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you are a good mother depends on many things.
Firstly, you love the children. Secondly, they love you. Thirdly, you are doing what is best for them. This would include shelter, proper diet, some necessary discipline, and education. They need attention and a mother, not a friend.
If you are unable to do any of these things right now, then you will have, unfortunately, a weak court case. One of the first things a court will review is your financial position. Many times a loving mother is unable to take care of her own children because of financial instability.
This is a very broad question, and if you are going into court, it is best you ask a professional lawyer. Know what the other party is going to say against you, and have a counter argument, or a good answer.
If you have taken good care of your children, and you clearly have concern for them, then you ought to be fine.
I wish you and your children the best of luck.
2006-12-10 05:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you live with your parents doesn't make you an unfit parent :: That's great you don't do all those other things (drugs, etc) It seems like you're doing the best you can..
If you don't have a job:: Get one and save the money so you can get a place on your own:: Keep the children happy and healthy :: Keep them in school and do the best you absolutely can
Good Luck
2006-12-10 05:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they have adequate clothing, education, housing? Do you work and provide for them? Are your parents suitable, clean living arrangements and habits? IF you are dating is your boyfriend a descent person? These are things the courts look at when deciding custody. Are you setting good examples for your children? If you are not doing these things you need to get to work and start working on them.
2006-12-10 05:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Custody battles really suck. Been there.
So, just how do you prove him to be unfit? Is he a good father? Do the kids love him? What arrangements do you want for visitation? Child support?
There is way to many unknowns here to give an answer. 2 sides to every story.
2006-12-10 06:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Custody Preparation for Moms
http://www.custodyprepformoms.org/
Best primer I know on the subject. Good luck!
2006-12-10 13:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to prove how good a mother you are? What makes a good PARENT is that you do what is best for the child in all circumstances. As a parent we have to remember to take "self" out of it and concentratate on what really is in our kids' best interest!
2006-12-10 05:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can keep the kids in custody is if you have your own place, you cant be living with anyone, if the other spouse has his own place, and job, they will most likely let the children go stay with the other spouse.
2006-12-10 05:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋