Well I'm 23..I was living with my ex- fiance justin for awhile after we split up because i thought if i stayed that we could maybe work things out..mind he didnt have a problem with me staying...he had brought other girls home and i tried not to let it bother me but then he got abusive..and it seemed like every other night that it was a beating from hell..I have known this guy most of my life we grew up together and i had never seen him act violent before..we were best of friends before we decided to date.. i dont know what went wrong with our relationship or why he acts like that.. i have moved out on my own now to get away from it.. i use to be one of those ppl that always said it would never happen to me cuz i wouldnt take it but i did for so long and i dont know why.. I love him to death and i dont want this to relapse but hes talkin of gettin back together he sounds so sincere about it and has agreed to work on the issues and do whatever it takes ..idk what to do help!!!!
2006-12-10 05:39:56 · 16 answers · asked by Nay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stay out of the house, tell your boyfriend it is over.
The man needs anger management help. There are places he can go to learn to deal with his anger. Beating someone is not about love, but instead about control. He should seek professional help to resolve these issues.
The question you should ask yourself everytime you start to waiver with the heart strings is, do you want to live in fear of the next time he gets angry, and do you wish to be controled the rest of your life? What happens if he gets really angry and you end up dead? Stay out dear - and insist he get help for his issues, they are his issues not yours.
Best of luck.
2006-12-10 05:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back, no matter what. I know a few women who have been in abusive relationships. Fortunately, they're not in those situations anymore. None of their men changed, liked they promised over and over again. It's also not just the physical abuse, it's the mental side of it. They make you feel so down about yourself that you keep going back for more. Get some kind of counseling for yourself and please, whatever you do, stay away from this guy. He will never change and you do not deserve the abuse. You're a way better person than to put up with that ****.
2006-12-10 06:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, you are better off keeping him as a distant friend, even if that. He has already shown that he is an abusive person, and it most likely will only get worse. If you decide to go back and do this thing, you are just showing him it was alright what he did to you. Move on , there are a lot of men that will treat you good and never lay a hand on you, or verbally abuse you.
2006-12-10 06:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by jerrycarr99029 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is I've gone through the same thing, and it doesn't get better. You think you know that person and then all of a sudden something happens a flash in their eye and then they turn into someone you don't even know, I know its hard because you love that person, but you just can't go back. I was one of those persons that said this will never happen to me always trying to give advice to my friends about getting out of their relationship and never taking my own advice. I'm emotionally scarred and exhausted form all of this and going back doesn't help, it wont. The only person that can help them is them self. If you love him let him go because ultimately you both will be hurting.
2006-12-10 05:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by ladysassafras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even give the guy another thot. He hit you, you were smart enough to leave, stay gone. There are plenty of other nice men you could date. Obviously you split up for a reason, someone was looking out for you. Take a hint, what do you think your future would be like with him?? I would have had him arrested in a heartbeat. Don't be so stupid and naive.
2006-12-10 05:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi miss 23yr old... pls don't go back to him, I know love is blind but in your case love is also abusive, pls as a women u need to think of your security and self respect. If he realy cared for you then he would have not those abusive things to you...pls don't give in you can be with someone who treats you like a women you deserve to be treated like. you are a human not a doll that someone could do whatever they want and get their way. just tell him you want to be on your own and start a new relationship with someone that cares about you and only u......u can do this for all the girls who are in the same boat as u r and make us all proud
2006-12-10 06:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by sosoqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest answer:Move on.He is not the only man in planet earth.Next time he can hurt you really bad,and you will not find the way out.Do not make the same mistake twice.God already protect you from that man.God will give you in your future a man,who will love you indeed,and never even think in hurt you.All is up to you,think well,you are younger enough to find a really good man.God bless you every day in your life and protect you of evil men.Good luck.
2006-12-10 06:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself some help. You have been abused and may have Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. You need as much help and support as you can get to have the strength to do what is best for you (and him if he doesn't want to end up in jail) and stay away from him.
2006-12-10 09:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by caring_funlovingteacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie get on with your life. that was an abusive relationship. it wasn't love he was showing you. they all say they will change and the woman goes back. if he change good for him maybe the next woman won't suffer what you did. get some help to deal with the issue and move on. people can show their true colors after you live with them for awhile. don't look back. you deserve better keep telling yourself that. don't be a victim be a survivor. good luck sweetie
2006-12-10 05:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run girl! You are better of without him. He will end up really hurting you if you go back. Women have ended up dead because they went back to a even more violent man. Be smart. And make yourself a good life...with out him!
2006-12-10 05:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋