My husband is a paraplegic and has been for 10 years. We play pool on an APA pool league. The pool hall/bar is owned by a husband and wife. The wife doesn't like my husband and makes it well known to everyone that she doesn't like him. I haven't been able to figure out why because he has never done anything to her. As a matter of fact we make a point of staying away from her. Well, 2 weeks ago a fight broke out in the bar and my husband went to help pull people apart. Around 20 other people did the same thing. The female owner just lost it on my husband. Well last week when we went to play pool, this woman thought that Tom (my husband) owed her an apology from the previous week. Tom felt like he didn't but went to apologize to her anyway to be the bigger "man". In front of everyone in the bar, she told him to "shut up" and "to take his unsincerely apology and shove it up his crippled, wheelchaired a**". At that point he was so humiliated that he left. Can this woman legally say this?
2006-12-10 05:39:37 · 18 answers · asked by Harleyboy1369 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
whatta unsensitve *****...its not illegal she's just rude
2006-12-10 05:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by ♥•ßÃߥ•♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This was a rude and insensitive thing to say, however not discriminatory. If she had refused to serve him BECAUSE he is parapalegic then that would be discriminatory. I pose another question for you. WHY would you and your husband choose to frequent this place knowing how the owner feels about your husband and realizing that your patronage helps to support her *ITCHY *SS!! The solution is to simply find another place to frequent. If you live in a small town and there is no where else around buy a pool table (new or used) and become the new hangout for all of your friends. Be satisfied knowing that her judgement will come someday by a higher power and in the meantime she won't be getting anymore money out of your pocket.
2006-12-10 05:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude, but I don't think it is illegal. She can be as insulting and nasty as she wants in her bar. You have the right to not go there anymore.
I would think the pool league would want to consider finding another place to play pool. She'll learn to be nicer when there's less cash in the register and you can all enjoy playing where people are polite.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 07:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by bookmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a free country (including our right to free speech) and will probably be a long expensive legal battle to prove her in the wrong, if an attorney were to take the case. The police will say it's a civil matter if you try to involve them. I would suggest you find somewhere else to play pool and leave and her cronies to them unhappy selves. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-10 05:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by beeotch 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit looking for a way to get so-called justice or more likely easy money.
If you need to inflict some kind of punishment because you feel that you have been permanently scarred or damaged by the experience why not put on your thinking cap and just stop giving her your money.
Or better yet settle it on the Jerry Springer show.
2006-12-10 05:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She can say whatever she wants, and it's up to you to prove that it caused any damage. Unless she threatens you, or telephones or emails you to harass you with that kind of talk, or tells lies in a newspaper or on the radio about you, she can pretty much say what she likes. It is, after all, her bar.
My advice would be to find another bar; it doesn't sound like you'd be missing much, and they don't deserve your money.
2006-12-10 05:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by sparticle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no law, but why would you want to support the business of such a low-life? Are the patrons there so brain dead that they are willing to tolerate and support her? I assume she must consume the booze along with everyone else. Have you noticed that the longer people drink the more their character deteriorates????
2006-12-10 05:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by CincinnatiDon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Free speech is constitutionally protected, but this is, besides being completely boorish, not the best business strategy I ever heard of. I for one, as a disinterested party, would wish to avoid doing business there.
2006-12-10 06:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she can legally say anything she wants, to anyone she wants. . . especially in her place of business. It's a terrible thing to say, but the ability to voice our opinions aloud is a basic American right. I remember when "Sticks and Stones" was the rule of thumb. I do hope you stop patronizing her business and encourage your friends to do the same. Does she have proper handicap accessible everything?
2006-12-10 05:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by c.arsenault 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
she can say whatever she wants, it's her bar and it sucks that she was such a b**ch but there is not alot you can do. maybe you should go and talk to her alone other than that you could just go elsewhere
2006-12-10 05:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by amanda b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While rude it isnt illegal. If he is a paraplegic why is he breaking up bar fights???
2006-12-10 05:42:12 · answer #11 · answered by Frank R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋