I keep telling my mom that I hate her after we fight. I love her to death, and every time I try to talk to her, she's afraid it will end up in a fight.
Please help me
2006-12-10 05:30:36 · 17 answers · asked by Nadja ~*OJD 4 LYFE*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ummmm... thanks to everyone who is answering... i want good advice.. not someone to answer who is going to put me down
2006-12-10 05:44:47 · update #1
You need to remember that no matter how mad you get, calling her names or telling her you hate her is not acceptable, especially if you don't really hate her. The way you sound you love your mom & want to be able to talk to her, but the fights you have with her are just those mom-knows-best fights. You'll get through them-- just try to listen to her & don't turn small arguments into a fight. It's not worth it. You'll be thankful in the end.
Good luck!
2006-12-10 05:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by erica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean,but u have to keep trying because it happens without thinking and it's hard to control, I myself am asking the same question right now (more or less) and waiting for the answers, I suggest starting the conversation stating that u probably are going to fight and that u want to talk calmly
2006-12-10 13:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by south e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THink of all the nice things she has done, becuase that is exactly what shes gonna do. Drop a guilt bomb on you. I know it's hard but just think, what has my mom done that made me really happy? and then just calm down. Go into your room or just get away. Unless your mom beats you or doesnt treat u right, she's a good mom, u just gotta tell urself that
2006-12-10 13:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Atrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have some self control and don't say it!
Watch the movie Click if you haven't already. It has a good scene in it that actually happens all the time in real life.
When your mother does die you will deeply regret saying that to her for the rest of your life.
I remember telling my Grandfather once that I hated him (he was making me do homework), and a couple years later he died of lung cancer. I still to this day regret it and its been 15 years!
2006-12-10 13:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the time to sit down and talk to her. since she has a fear that it will end up in a fight, make sure you're calm and as totally out of stress as possible. talk to her about your ights, and really how you feel about this stuf. tell her how you love her to death, and that even when you say u hate her, it's just out of anger. if you sit down and have a deep, calm tlak, i think evrything should be fine. :)
2006-12-10 13:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by MiKKi ~:B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GEEZ! I totally understand you on this one :: Sometimes I want to say it :: BUT what I do is scream it in a pillow :: Not directly to her face :: I hardly speak to my mother because it's always a fight :: When you feel like you're going to say it :: Just walk away :: You know you don't hate her, you just say it out of anger::
Good Luck!
2006-12-10 13:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by classy_uic_chic11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you speak. It is hard sometimes, because we all tend to say the first thing that pops into our heads. Best advise is, to think about the words before you say them. It's not always easy to do - and it takes time and work - but if you work at it - the words will be more gentle and not so harsh, because you thought about it, before you said it.
2006-12-10 13:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please put your self in your moms shoes and see what your words are doing to her, , and instead of fighting with her ask her if you can discuss calmly some thing with her, and give her the respect she deserves before you blow up at her, listen very care fully , and think about what she is saying, she does have your best interest at heart, even if you do not agree
2006-12-10 13:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you too. Sadly, when are emotions are negatively ignited, we say what we don't really mean. I have a 13 year old daughter. Remember to keep calm, and be respectful when sharing your feelings.
2006-12-10 13:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by what's up? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better stop disrespecting your mother! cuz you only get one. there are people who would give their own last breath, just to see their mother's smile in the morning. you should value your time with her, and work on your relationship calmly, instead of being nieve, and saying harsh things to her. she feeds you, clothes you, and supports you! she's a provider, treat her like one.
2006-12-10 13:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by JUBILI83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋