I have a neighbor who is on the DL. If you don't know what that means, it is on the Down Low, bi-sexual. I know this because he has other guys come over to visit him frequently. Then you hear the usual moaning, groaning and bed rocking then you see that person leave. Recently he had his girlfriend move in with him. So my question is should I tell the girlfriend and if so how?
2006-12-10 05:28:19 · 9 answers · asked by R S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
don't tell her
2006-12-10 05:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her. If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you want to be told? There is the chance that he is not that way anymore and exclusively into only one woman now . .. but, if I was the woman I'd like to know so I can have an open conversation with my guy. Also, since you are neighbors, that is very awkward. How 'bout getting a note to her anonymously via her car or something?
2006-12-10 13:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wait, this is a neighbor and not a friend?
No. I think you should mind your own business in this instance. You don't know the circumstances -- you could end up giving yourself more trouble for butting in.
Butt in if you hear him beating someone up -- not their sexual activity.
Keep in mind you have to live there.
2006-12-10 13:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
say ' i think your bf is seeing other people. i've heard him moaning and groaning, and i hear the bed rocking. Then i see someone leave. i'm very sorry, but i do believe that he is cheating'
2006-12-10 13:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
are you sure its a gilrfriend? because most guys dont change sides like that girls do but not guys. so it might be wise to ask him if he is protecting her. this lets him know that you are worried about her and will take a step if he isnt.
2006-12-10 13:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! He is putting his GF at risk for STDs and thats why the HIV/AIDS rate is exploding, from guys on the DL. I dont care if he uses condoms or not, its risky and she needs to know about it.
2006-12-10 13:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by jeannabna 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's a neighbour, not a friend. As such his love life is *really* none of your business, and you should keep well out of it.
2006-12-10 13:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by pompeii 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she already knows...? I don't know... I don't think it's your business. However, if you KNOW that he has some horrible disease (like, for a fact) then, yes, I think you should tell her. Otherwise, don't worry about it.
2006-12-10 13:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of your business:mind you own business
Just stay out of it.
Rob.
2006-12-10 13:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋