I am 22 nearly 23 I had my first son when i was 15-16 he is now 6yrs old..I was rapped and emotional wrecked when my son hit the age of 3. there was a bad lot of people who moved into my area and held me by gun point for money and the rest...I feared my life as i reported it to the police...My sons grandmother convienced me the best thing at the time would be to sign over residents order to her so i did after a couple of months i went back 2get him and she said i couldnt have him. I became more depressed as i didnt know what 2do i tried 2 get him back she refused so i left town as i couldnt take the stress was to much and i have no family to support me. i moved to london where i had my son now aged 2 i am studying and working for social services i have been back for 6mnths begging her to let me see him...On top of all this me and the dad of my first child have got back together aswell as we have been like high school lovers just the past got very heated and no one knew what to do..
2006-12-10 05:06:59 · 6 answers · asked by MissTee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry to hear about what happened, the best thing you can do is get a lawyer, you are the child's mother and are entitled to be in his life no matter what his grandmother feels, she is attached to him as she has had him for so long but he deserves to know who you are and have a relationship with you, you are on the right track since you have your life together, and are working towards your goals, what happened in your past shouldn't have any bearing on what kind of mother you can be to your son now and in the future so stay Strong and things will work itself out for you, good luck.....
2006-12-10 05:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but where has your first child's father been all this time? You say you're with him now, but I didn't hear anything about him in the beginning of the story. You don't need to be with him if he left you for having this child. I don't know if he did or not, but if he did, he needs to go, and I'd tell him that. First off, this child doesn't belong to his grandmother. You let her take full responsibility for a while, but you didn't mean forever. Explain to her that you love your child and miss him, and you'll do anything to have him back. If this doesn't work, keep trying. Ask her if she would like it if someone had taken her child away from her. It's unfair, and the child isn't hers. You don't need to be in London right now- you need to be fighting to get your son back. The pressure was on you, as I can tell because you moved, but this is your child, and you have to fight with everything in you to prove that you want your child back. You moving probably made his grandmother think you really didn't want him, which you did but couldn't handle all the depression. Talk to her all you can, and beg. This is your child, you had him, you went through those 9 months, and you deserve to have your child back. Seeing as how I've never been in a situation like this because I'm 11, I don't know how you feel, but I know you love your son, so go get him. Show his grandmother that you really do care for him. Good luck.
2006-12-10 13:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i guess at this point you have to go through the court system,if you really want your son back.the problem now would be what he feels and how hard would be for him and you to start a new life.what is important is that you are sure that is that what you want.you can not play with his feelings coming back ,get him and then see that is not what you want,and send him back .anyways she is been selfish and don't deserve to stay with your son ,doesn't matter how bad was the situation before.
2006-12-10 13:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a lawyer and go for custody. The judge will listen and decide, but you will have a very good chance at getting your child now that you have yourself together. You couldn't be working for social services if you weren't together. Good Luck and God Bless you, your love and your son!
2006-12-10 13:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fight for him. Take his grandmother to court. She probably doesn't think you are together enough to take care of him. Or she might just be selfish. Doesn't sound as if you have done much fighting for your son in the past. Time to stand up for him and yourself.
2006-12-10 13:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court,ask for help in getting YOUR chrildren back,,it won;t be an easy road .but keep trying..
2006-12-10 13:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋