If you were almost raped how would you feel? Is it normal to still be somewhat scared of being alone with guys or having a male touch you? Is it normal to still be afraid of going outside at night alone?
2006-12-10 04:45:33 · 13 answers · asked by mcrmy~ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds normal to me. I was molested by an older sister when I was 6, and it still enters my thoughts at least once a day. And I'm old.
2006-12-10 04:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to disagree with this rostov fellow. Though I'd agree with the women's defense classes, I wouldn't agree that you'd need professional counseling. It's certainly normal to feel like that after an experience like that, but you can put it behind you, in fact, even if you were actually raped, it would still be in your capacity to put it behind you. The psychological community presents the image that the human mind is an incomprehensible and complex thing and people when in the face of tragedy need their counseling or otherwise drugs to be acceptable and functioning people, well bullocks! People are far stronger than any psychologist wants you to know, if you simply decided that you wanted to pull yourself together and resolved to not let any horny bastard be an authority over your worth or happiness and not be any judicator to the course of your life, then you could do it. You could simply walk away from a situation like that and never look back. Whoever almost raped you was an asshole, it's not as if he was doing it because he hated you or otherwise, he was doing it because he has no moral integrity, is a right sight of a bastard if I've ever seen one, and is likely completely mental. Bastards like that need not have any affect on your life if you don't let them. As a normal, functioning person, you have more strength and nobility than any horny bastard who doesn't have the strength to keep it in his pants, and that's something they can't take away from you if you don't let them, you simply put one foot in front of the other, and continue being a well functioning person, because it's really rather easy once you resolve to do it.
2006-12-10 05:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by thalog482 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is completely normal to be scared. Healing takes time. The sooner you get help though, the sooner you can start to be comfortable around men again. Trauma like this never completely goes away. It changes a person forever, but there is help available. Please check out www.rainn.org. They have a free confidential hotline you can call just to talk to someone if you need to: 800-656-HOPE.
My thoughts are with you.
2006-12-10 08:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by NachoBidness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I am almost raped every single time I venture into the public eye. Women seem to constantly rape me with their eyes. I could only wish it wasn't only "almost raped."
2016-05-23 02:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trauma would still be there, and yes all the feelings your describe can happen. It will take a while to get through this and you should probably try to talk to a counselor about what has happened.
2006-12-10 04:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds completely normal. Just keep on living and eventually you'll learn to trust again, but you'll always have the advantage of being a little more weary than others.
2006-12-10 05:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Greg S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES!!!
Take care yourself. Take it slow, get counceling, look for the resources in your area.
Also, take WOMAN'S defense classes. The best ones teach you confidence again and how not to feel like a victim.
I hope you do find a real loving two way relationship with someone who understands and respects you.
Do let the #$@# win.
Cheers, Rostov.
Again, take care. My heart goes out to you. Don't let him win.
2006-12-10 04:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by rostov 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I will forget everything & start my life in a new manner. I f again I have to face & If there is no Chance to escape from it then I will set up my mind that I have to enjoy it.Because we ar the female of Todat's generation, we have to go outside at night.
2006-12-10 05:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Monalisa Debnath 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hell yeah it is, hell I never been raped(or almost) and I'm scared to be out at times of the night period. Good luck to you
2006-12-10 04:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by catworkbefoul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow yourself to be immobilized by past experiences. It's smart to be cautious, but don't let the actions of one sick individual keep you from experiencing life to the fullest.
2006-12-10 04:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋