My gf has just found out that her husband has been cheating on her? Why do men and women cheat - are they lacking something in their relationship? Or do they have no self-respect and morals?
2006-12-10 04:36:42 · 19 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband cheated on me but then so did his dad do the same to his mother! Men seem to go through mid life crises. I like to call it PENOPAUSE! Women go through MENOPAUSE but men definitely get Penopause!. They seem to think with the wrong brains! A lot of men feel trapped when they get into their 40's. They have not attained the level of wealth they had envisioned and want to quit for some crazy reason. The symptoms appear to be picking on the spouse and the children and blaming them that he has no life. HE then decides on going to a gym or take on some outdoor activity that does not include his wife. He starts unbuttoning the top button of his shirt to expose all three chest hairs and starts dressing wierdly and wearing gold chains and things. Then the little madam usually 2 years old than one's daughter shows up and he has a ripe fling. You are clearly used goods. He buys a new car which cannot be afforded and one day hits the road with his new found love to greener pastures. However there is no greener pasture. All his insensitivity has done is break the hearts of the ones who love him. He feels he is perfectly justified by his actions and worse still usually makes his wife believe its all her fault that he left!
The good news is that after a while of lustful bliss he begins to suddenly awaken to the fact that he is pretty much used goods and the babe was after what he didnt have in the first place called MONEY!
No relationshjip can be built on lust! It doesnt last. There is nothing like your own flesh and blood. THe man eventually returns home broke, hurt and repentive. QUite frankly if she loves him she just waits and lets him ride out his storm. He will get over it. On the otherhand biblically she may divorce him and quite frankly I would sue them both! Her for breaking up the home!
It sickens me to think this happens but it does and there is no escaping it with what our wonderful televisions tell us is fine to do. The world we live in is so sick and the media make it worse with all the garbage they feed us. I actually refrain from watching to keep my sanity!
Youre telling your friend will hurt her. Rather just be there to support her through the crisis when it happens. That is better.
COnfront her husband and tell him he better quit before he wounds his family her family and their own immediate family in the process. What he is doing is not only selfish but cruel and he deserves a fat kick in the butt for it!
I pray she doesnt go through the heartache and pain that I did. It is so devastating to say the least!
2006-12-10 05:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters-
People cheat for many different reasons. And most cheaters feel that they have a very valid reason to cheat. There are also many different things that one will or will not consider cheating.
People cheat for a personal gain. Just like people steal for the same reason.
But in our society, cheating is wrong. It is immoral. It is bad., foul, vile, indecent, profane, and just down right unrightous. But everyone was not raised or taught the same vaules in life. Therefore in the eyes of some, cheating is ok.
To find the answer to your question, you will have to go the source. Go to the person who is actually doing the cheating. They will give you their version. Don't be surprise if they place the blame on their partner. Whatever excuse they give, it is their story. You might not agree with cheating, but people do it more often than you can imagine.
Trouble in the relationship, or simply a new attraction has stolen the heart. Whatever the reason may be, it's still a reflection of the person's character. Cheating doesn't have to take place (under no circumstance)
Cheating is a choice an individual makes with their own mind.
No one can make you cheat.
2006-12-10 05:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply men and women cheat because they want too!!! It is a choice and people make good and bad decisions daily when it comes to life. Relationships is no different. There are many reasons why people cheat, but no one knows the exact reason why. A person can respect themselves and have high morals and unfortunately still cheat. There is no one that is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. I think people who cheat are not necessarily lacking self respect and morals, they just made a bad choice when it came to their relationship. Do I condone it, no. Is it forgivable, yes. Can you have a relationship with someone who cheated on you, depends on your tolerance.
2006-12-10 05:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I am simply going to cut and paste so I save typing the same answers. Why do people cheat? Well, only about a hundred reasons that can be used as justifications, but really the only reason that they do so is because they make the choice to do so. It is that simple and plain.
I have never heard of a man falling down and having his penis land in some women nor have I heard of a woman falling down and having her vagina land on a penis by accident.
Maybe your friends man is just a turd. Maybe your friend has made a habit of not doing her part or giving it up and he finally said fine, I will do someone else instead since you dont seem to want to take care of business.
You wont ever know the truth about how they did things in their marriage anyway. You will only know what they decide to tell you, which may or may not be true.
PEOPLE CHEAT BECAUSE THEY DECIDE TO DO SO. Yes, they can be given things by the mate that they can use to help justify cheating, but that still doesnt change that it was a choice.
2006-12-10 04:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people cheat--there is usually a problem within the relationship or some personal issue that needs tending to. It comes out and no self-respect or morals.
2006-12-10 04:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. When I feel as if I am missing something, I covet. When I see a person driving a better vehicle than I have, I desire it. The difference is similar, if I want that truck, I'd have to steal it, if I feel excited from a woman, other than my spouse, I would have to deceive people to get it. In all, I believe it is not the actual act of the crime, the worst ramifications are when others get hurt from my actions. I always try to think of others before I do anything for myself. I only wish more people thought this way...
2006-12-10 05:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they lack self control, they have a character flaw, something in their past. they think they are getting better, and they have no respect for their wife. they lack understanding, and just can't see the truth. they also are unable to problem solve when problems come to a marriage. so they cheat, and look for someone else because they have no faith. they are selfish, and maybe afraid that of something. they have no respect for themselves, so how could they respect a wife?
2006-12-10 05:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you already have proof he is cheating ("So I think my bf is cheating doing the online thing I do have proof, but he hides his "cookies" temp files that can trace what you are doing online.. ") why would you want to continue torturing yourself looking for more evidence? Just kick him to the curb noone deserves to be cheated on. I know its easier said than done because I'm sure you love him, but love yourself more. No guy is ever worth your tears.
2016-05-23 02:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat because our society has made it an accepted form of behavior. We tolerate it. A long time ago you would have never heard of someone cheating, but somewhere along the way it became acceptable.
2006-12-10 04:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by ijustwanttobeloved4 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Humans are animals, more evolved of course, but still animals. Animals don't have relationships or get married. Men are more animal then women, so with women as the heart controls her actions she will search for what she is lacking in her relationship. Men as I said are animals. They urinate from their brain.
2006-12-10 04:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Countess Bathory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋