i have 2 kids and married. very tierd allday. i have no energy at all i am so deppressed all the time. dont do any of the things i once enjoyed. how do you make your self feel better and get motivated.
2006-12-10 04:31:26 · 9 answers · asked by realquiet78 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I keep a success journal. A success journal is simply a journal of your daily accomplishments (even if they are lame - like took a shower). Write down all your accomplishment right before you go to bed and have it be the last thing you think about before you go to sleep. When you sleep you will process your positive feeling about yourself and you will find your mood will lift. When you feel down - pull out your journal and read it. It is wonderful reminder of all the good things in your life.
It also helps to focus on the good stuff. If you want to be happy then focus on positive things in your life. I was going through a horrible time in my life and each day I would recount all the bad stuff that was happening to me. During that time my Mom told me to make a list of blessing not my losses and I would start to attract more blessings. She was right. The blessing list continues to grow on and on.
2006-12-10 05:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by imjust_lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK time to go talk to your doctor....
I'm not kidding
Or go find a good friend and talk to them about how you feel.
Lot's of young mothers have depression...you need to get out and take some action about it...do something fun just for you.
Tell yourself that you are really important...that you are the main person who keeps your family running and that even if no one every thanks you, you know that (as all mothers have in the past).
You are the soul of your community, the spiritual mother of the generations that will come from you, and the hope of mankind. You feed, cloth and nurture that future that grows in your sweet children. You are the giver, the one who plans the days, insures the safety of the seeds of civilization. I know it seems that I am being grandiose here, but no one ever gives you credit for being a mother, not really.
Take a good multi-vitamin, exercise regularly and drink plenty of water. Dlepression is serious, so take it seriously and begin to focus on doing something about it. Writing this question was a good start.
Good Luck.
2006-12-10 04:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hecate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is stress, not unhappiness.
To get happy, unless there's a chemical or psychological cause for your depression,
you'll need to do three things.
1. Agree with people who are down on you, notice what's happening that's negative and repeat how you're feeling about it silently to yourself--in other words, acknowledge and then start getting on with your life; you need to "deflect" negatives, by refusing to let them interrupt or annoy you. Think about them much later--not when your children or other people get down on you or say something about you, etc.
2. Arrange your day around the things that have to be done, that can't be avoided and can't be improved. Do these repetitive tasks automatically, the way you put on shoes or comb your hair; they're necessary but they're not worth thinking about. Once you get these out of the way, then you will have time to relax, celebrate--and maybe even to do something you'd enjoy doing. You must make a written list; stick to it--and put a section called "time for me"; that's your bank account of time to do what you want.
3. Decide if you have to have help, and make sure you get it. The key to your happiness is having time for things you do well, for things you want to do, for things you can look forward to doing and like to think about ahead of time, and have the time to enjoy. The rest is just things you need to do, in order to get to your personal priorities.
2006-12-10 04:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Robert David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray, you need to see if you can find a support group, because please believe me we are all going through what you are. You are not alone by any means.
You also need to make sure that you take some time for yourself everyday. I take a hot bath when everyone in the house is asleep and that is my time to commune with God and wind down from the day.
2006-12-10 04:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww hunni, you ought to of been a stunner and stil a stunner for him to of preferred, been with and had children with you!!! i say pamper ya self whether or not that be makeup, bathtub, new garments, new hair, whatever that you just desire to upgrade on attempt to just do to make YOU consider higher i had the identical factor occur to me so i made up our minds i could no longer dangle circular feeling sorry. despite the fact that i used to be cleansing the apartment identity positioned a little bit of lippy on so whilst i regarded within the replicate i felt higher. You have to do matters for your self after which the guys will come flocking in (if thats wat you desire in my opinion after ur ex i wouldnt hassle for a whilst!) Good success darling!!
2016-09-03 09:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO pray about it and pray for others, pamper yourself, exercise and find something to do with the hubby that doesn't include the kids once a week.
2006-12-10 04:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of the computer and go outside.
I feel better about myself by listening to you piss and moaners on here. Boo Hoo for you.
When you realize no one really cares you might quit feeling sorry for yourself.
2006-12-10 04:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jimfix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go back and find your passions and follow them. You have to do something that you love. Build your self esteem and follow your heart.
http://www.public-speaking-solutions.com/self-esteem.html
2006-12-10 06:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your children.
If you do this, you will have accomplished everything.
2006-12-10 04:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Bugmän 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋