I don't think she's cheating, since she is pretty overweight (I don't mind, but I KNOW other guys do!)...but she's on this kick of I have got to be nice to her...like "civil", she keeps saying, though I work hard and bring in all the money! Yeah, she used to work and got me through some tough times (I'm a recovering alcoholic since '95...and I got seizures after a head injruy)...an SHE says all that should count, but what about how she treats ME now? Is it my fault she drinks now? NO. (she says I was mean BEFORE she started drinking, after I got out of prison for my 4th DuI and started sleeping alone...I was flipped out by my experience!) Is it my fault she took care of me? NO! What am I supposed to do...devote my friggin' LIFE to her and our kid?
2006-12-10 04:31:09 · 22 answers · asked by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I said this and she said this..blah blah blah-what are you-in the 3rd grade? you sound like a child telling on another to the teacher. Grow up. What kind of a man thinks he shouldn't be asked to devote his life to his wife and child? a selfish, foolish, irresponsible one. This is life here-you get married and have a kid-you better believe it is your job to take care of them. Yeah you helped your wife out and of course she helped you out too-what do you think a marriage consists of? A loving, mature, MUTUAL relationship between two people.
I feel sorry for your wife and your kid-sounds like they got the worse end of the deal.
2006-12-10 04:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kris W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very good question, you are in a cycle of abuse, it can be broken, but it takes a while, and the alcohol and drugs must be put aside forever. Her reaction and behavior are classic for the most part. The abused become the abuser. Seek the help of a professional, they can explain the cycle and ways that the two of you can break it, if you so choose. It takes years, there is no over night cure. And some men do like large women, I see them all the time. I would hope that you are one of them being your wife is large. If there is not a commitment to stop the abuse, the child and you should leave, nothing good can come from the child being in a situation where they wittiness abuse on daily weekly or monthly basis.
2006-12-10 04:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I don't think it matters. either one of you leaving would cause a sad situation, especially when there are children involved. If it didn't work, it didn't work, those things happen. Look at him moving near you as a blessing, the kids will have access to both parents all the time. Stop worrying about him trying to get back with you. I know you may be feeling guilty for hurting his feelings, but sooner or later he's going to come to accept that it just didn't work and start to move on...they all do.
2016-05-23 02:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cared for u, during your hardest time, she got u through it, and was there for u, and now all she wants is a little kindness, to let her know u value her, we all have had bad experiences, and have been hurt, but we still have to treat people right. she just wants to know that u love her, and appreciate her. if u are the husband and the dad, than u need to step up to the plate, and do what dad's and husband's do, take care of them, and husbands do devote their lives to their families, that is pretty normal, out of a normal man i guess. guess u just don't understand what your role in life is, may be do to selfishness on your part, get some spiritual counciling.
2006-12-10 04:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is Hell Yes. And if she doesn't, then she should. You should devote your life to your wife and especially to your child. What is the matter with you? If you are honestly like this then you are pathetic, or if you are just posting this to get a rise out of people then you are still a loser, Hopefully you are the latter and have SOME respect your wife - if you really have one that is!
2006-12-10 04:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important responsibility, privelege & honor you will ever have is to be a real Father to your child, nothing else comes close. - God has entrusted you with something very precious and you should devote everything you have to your child and ensure their happiness & well being. This is the only legacy you will ever leave on this earth
Your wife may leave - but your focus should be making things as right as possible with her and not harbor bad feelings in order to ensure as much happiness as you can for your child. I would seriously considering family counciling
2006-12-10 04:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by edivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fisrt the child has nothing to do with this u should devote ur whole life to him\her because they did not ask to be in this situation. About ur gurl. I think she's just in a ruff spot like u were once if she helped u then u should be good enough to help her threw this. But having said all that there does come to a point in time when enough is enough. Hun its ur call and only u can decide when that time comes but please don't forget about the child that's all I ask.
2006-12-10 04:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by bambii_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a spoiled person. You are lucky to be a live. Sounds like she has been though alto with you, It might had caused her to start drinking. ,buty she can stop . Maybe she does not like her self, and now taken pity for what you have put her thru. . If you two can't get along , it is best to separte and see if that straighens you out. She has just gotten fed up and now showing you what you put her thru. She can probly get along better without you , than you can with out her. Your next DWI might be your last you would not have anyone to complain too., being 6 ft. under. Probly best for her and son to leave or you , Pem
2006-12-10 04:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you put her through, you wouldn't have to bother worrying if you was going to have to devote your frigging life to me and my child, because you would have been out of my life a long, long, long, time ago. The reason she is probably overweight is messing with your sorry *** all these years and you making her nervous and some people tend to overeat when their depressed
2006-12-10 04:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW..Ya I think she should leave, and that is what you do when you get married,, DEVOTE! Talk about making her and your kids feel like nothing. Be alone, thats where you belong, that way you don't need to consider others feelings. Sorry but you act like you have no clue on what a marriage is.
2006-12-10 04:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋