i just got the fateful news a few minutes ago. it is the 1st time i've heard something like this and I'm shocked stiff. i've decided to spend the day with him tmrw. How do i console him. i've been in such a situation and i'm still in shock ... so pls
2006-12-10 04:26:48 · 8 answers · asked by Corky M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
his mother had cancer for a very long time ... if that changes anything
2006-12-10 04:29:47 · update #1
I lost my dad last year, just be there for him ,listen. it's a little easier when u know that person is going my aunt died of cancer 1 week after my dad we were sad because she left us but the same time glad she didn't have to suffer anymore, and i was shocked my dad went unexpectedly a heart attack.just let him know you are there for him, he'll grieve for awhile I still miss my dad and sometimes still cry for him.
2006-12-10 04:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother earlier this year. The main thing that helped me was for my friends to show support by just listening to me cry and express my grief. I did most of the talking and the most helpful friends were the ones that just listened and let me ramble on.
Let them know that is OK and normal to be sad. Don't try to say things to cheer the friend up. They are not supposed to feel cheery, and trying to cheer them up will just make them feel worse.
What they need is just need to have their feelings of grief validated by a caring friend who will listen. Don't worry about the "perfect thing to say." They really just need an ear to listen. There is no perfect thing you an say anyway except just that you are sorry. Also positive things about the person who died. Such as "your mom was such a special person."
Too many people stay away from grieving people because they dont know what to say, leaving the friend to feeling alone and more sad.
It is a hard time and the grieving process goes in steps and will take a couple of years to go through. Be patient with the friend because people tend to express grief in different ways. The first part is really sort of a feeling of shock and disbelief. the sad part comes later when the reality really sinks in. Just remember your friend will be going through a lot of emotions this year and being there for the long haul will prove you are a true and caring friend.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 04:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by San Diego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 01:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 console your friend you should hang with him more u should make him fell at home when he is at your house now u need 2 be ther 4 him more often
2006-12-10 04:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for them. Listen to them. Comfort them. Take care of them. Your obviously a good friend so just do what feels right.
2006-12-10 04:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Giselle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont i think that you should tell him and be there for him because there nonthing you could do for him to rfeel better just be a friend and hold him because he going to be down just try to cheer him up and be there for him
2006-12-10 04:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If you don't know what to say explain that you don't know what to say. Your friend will be grateful for you just being there
2006-12-10 04:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Davy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and be there. dont say anything like it will be ok. because with him right now nothing is ok.
2006-12-10 04:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by teddybearleogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋