Marriage is just a piece of paper?

Question

do you agree?? and why???

hey i just wanted to say that im asking as i have been asked for my RE paper at school. my paprents are divorced and one is remarried so i know how much mariage can hurt people!
i just wanted to see every ones view as i dont want to be too biased!
thank-you for your help so far!
xx

Answer 1

Disagree, marriage is when two people LEGALLY commit to one another. Same can be said about a divorce decree, it is the LEGAL separtion of a married couple. These thing should never be taken lightly.

I mentioned legally because that is what the piece of paper represents. Think, legally you can change your name to another, right??? But you just can't take someones name and have legal rights to their assets unless your married. You become as one in a shared relationship.

Unfortunately some look at marriage as if it is just a piece of paper and I think that is why many think divorce is a viable option when it comes to dealing with marital problems.

The business side of marriage is there is a cost. A friend once told me the expense to marriage is to see if you really want to get married. I guess as a young man 14 years ago I wonder why you have to pay to be with someone you love.

The flip side is why does it cost so much to get a divorce if it doesn't work out? The legal system has found a way to exploit marriage and that is what I have a problem with.

Answer 2

I have to agree with Treasure. When you get married you make vows to the other person to be there through everything. Just like a true best friend. You've made a promise to your significant other to cherish them, through all the good and bad that can and will happen in your life. A piece of paper? And people wonder why there are so many couples getting divorced in this day and age. Whatever happened to commitment to your husband or wife.

Answer 3

Depends on who you ask babe. Older generation, nan and grandad will say its not, well look how long they've been together. I personally would love to spend my days with just the one partner...build up and work on that FRIENDSHIP within the relationship thus passing all that love down through the generations to come. Being realistic, we always see someone who's more attractive than the partner you have already got...but your partner was your choice and the other person is probably less understanding.

If someone can tear you from your partner, they can leave you just as easily.

These days it is seen by many divorced couples as just a bit of paper...the vows seem to have no meaning because not many folk actually go to church or believe in God any more...thus they find it easy to break their commitments to each other. From a legal point of view if you live with someone, married or not you share possessions ...and sadly it seems that's all its about.

Answer 4

I disagree completely.
This question is taking a very shallow look at marriage. If you wanted to take such a viewpoint, then I could answer that obviously marriage isn't just about a piece of paper- it's also about joining bank accounts, credit cards, and the such (usually).
However, I don't view marriage so superficially. Marriage is about making a commitment to another person- not just in writing on a piece of paper, but believing with your whole heart, mind, and soul. You are saying that you will take care of them and they will take care of you and all others are secondary (except maybe kids, but that's often later).
From a biologist's perspective (which I am), then marriage could be viewed as a "contract" or agreement to confirm that two people are committed to rearing offspring and passing their genes on to the next generation. (Of course, it doesn't always work out like that, but that's a societal thing and not a biological thing).
So, to summarize... Marriage is certainly NOT just a piece of paper.

Answer 5

No, in my opinion marriage is not just a piece of paper. I am now 18 years old, and I got married when I was 16. I wont say its an easy thing, but its certainly more than a piece of paper. Its about love, and commitment, trust and sharing your life and good and bad moments of life with the person you love. Its very hard to explain unless you have experienced love or marriage. But I would certainly not change anything, even though there are arguments and bad times. But the good times certainly make up for the bad. Marriage is not something you should rush into, you need to make sure its the right choice, because at the end of the day....marriage is for life. A lifetime commitment. Many people give up on marriage and do not talk about their problems. My parents did it and now they both regret it. That was their choice not to work on it and now its affected their life forever. They used to be so happy, live in a great house and have everything they could ever dream of having. But they got used to not speaking about problems and pushed them all to one side. Now today they are both alcoholics and very depressed people. Who has this affected?!?! Them, and all of the people around them. Especially the family closest to them. I must live everyday in pain, looking at what they did to themselves, and helpless to what I can do for them. Just please everyone....really think about what you do. Most decisions you make will affect the rest of your life. (SORRY ABOUT GOING ON, GOT A LITTLE CARRIED AWAY)

Answer 6

no! too many people are treating it that way and it's wrong! marriage is so much more. too many people get married for the wrong reason or because they feel it's just a part of life that you have to do and then they get divorced cuz in the end it's just a piece of paper to them.
the paper is just for government purpose only. it's giving you right as a married couple and needed protection from certain legal and financial situations. it's a benefits package with a catch or ten, if your not careful...

Answer 7

i disagree with what you are saying it is more than a piece of paper it is about the small things that build a strong marriage! love, trust, honesty, commitment, and so on. i do agree with what you have said about parents who do get divorced, yes it does hurt and it is a stressful time for kids and the parents. with marriage you are taken on a new meaning of life a new surname someone to love and hold for eternity. marriage is the biggest commitment you could ever make to some one which is why it should be taken serious.

Answer 8

Marriage is the holy union of a man and a woman, where they promise in a sacred ceremony to love and care for eachother until the end of their lives. The paper is for legal reasons, but the marriage is not the paper... its the bond between the two people who are married.

I guess it might not hold as much importance (the holy union, anyway) if you're not religious...

Answer 9

My own $0.02:

We dated for eight years before we got engaged.
We were engaged for five years before we got married this past September.
We have lived together for the last four years.

You'd think that after all that, the actual wedding/piece of paper/being legal thing wouldn't feel any different than the previous four years.

But to us, it does. Neither one of us can articulate why, but there's a slightly different "feeling".

Our timeline was so long because he'd been married and divorced before, and I didn't want to "push" to get engaged. Once we got engaged, we had job issues and it took us a while to save up the money to have the wedding we wanted. So basically we'd already gone through the "For better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health" thing before we ever got married...

Answer 10

Hi!
I used to think that, but these days I'm inbetween yes and no.

Marriage can mean a piece of paper to all kinds of people, it just matters how each one thinks of the vows and importance of it!

To me, I feel that when one marries, it is FINAL, because of the "piece of paper". When people live together it is ok too, if that's what they want. To others, the marriage License means more because it is SOLID and could be very important to those people.

Thanks for hearing my view!