Ok im 14 and i have an almost 4 month old son. my brother already said i could get married when i wanted to that he would sign because he has custody of me. and this guy .dylan who i named my son after Dylan is 15 he will marry me when i want to he already said im tottally in love with him have been since i was 12. hes took care of me since ive had the baby and etc. what do you think of that anything posittive? please answer me its very important.
2006-12-10 04:14:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At 14 you do not know what love is. You may think you do, but you really don't. The mother in me wants to shoot whomever has not been keeping control of you and letting you run wild.
Now, with that said, you are in a bad situation so you have to make the best of it. Since you are in charge of a little person who cannot care for himself, you, the father of the baby and your brother need to all sit down and make some plans as to how to proceed. Who is taking care of you and the baby now? Who is providing the roof over your head and food? No, at 15 I doubt that it is Dylan. Where are your parents? And Dylans? Have you even thought of where you will continue to live? Is your brother willing to take care of all three of you? How old is your brother? Is he an adult? Seems to me there a lot of kids in this situation, making adult decisions.
2006-12-10 04:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it that, TN means tamil nadu.in that case u r in INDIA,
no where in india it is legally pemitted for a girl to marry before attaining 18 yrs,& for a boy 21 yrs.
what has happened is not fine at all.
any how it's allover,
stop fretting ,
u cannot marry the guy right now ,
now about the baby take care of the child ,u brother is
suppurting u any way ,so I believe it may not prove to be a biggest problem for u.
u have to wait for 4 yrs no ways
in the worst case if it is not possible for u& to ur brother
to accept the child to belong to u ,then inevitably u have to hand over the child to somebody u know can adopt the child OR the only other way would be to admitt the child in an anath ashram,after getting married to ur boy u can adopt the child .
both the decisions r tough
the extreme solution would be to marry him, but both of u are so young, I suppose ur boy is not doing any job,how will he feed u,is going to depend on his parents ,do they know about u &ur child,
what about ur life do u think he will be loyal to u allthro ur life,
well if u deseperately want to marry him then u both should talk to ur parents ,the only way out.
be brave.
ALL THE BEST.
2006-12-10 04:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by shwetha sharma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a girl had kid at 12 and a different one at 14 the one at 12 finished school and got good job and has a good life now and her kid finished school and everyhing was rocky at first but it worked out,the one at 14 quit school had kid again 2 kids and almost 15 and dad is 2 years younger he quit school and they live with anyone that will take them in he could not get a job has no skills a family member is paying him 6 dollars a hour to help him they have no car no place of there own not much a future/so take everything in and make you're own plans,if me i wait till out of school if he loves you he will still stand by you and kid and do anything for you, but with job and skills he can take care of you both better hope i helped.
2006-12-10 04:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by tony b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you and him are very young. Although I'm glad that he is willing to marry you and take care of you and the family, you really need to look toward the future. You both, if posible, need to finish school. The decisions you make now, will affect your future. You both need an education to make decent money...please think about this.......talk it over with him. There is no hurry in getting married. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-10 04:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where are your parents? i think you are both to young to make a major life decision like this. marriage is a serious committment, it is not a game, or something you cute you just wanna do.i hope you are at least taking care of your child though. if you two are mature and want to start a life i think that is great, but just remember that marriage is a big committment. are you ready to spend the rest of your life with this guy? do you trust him complelety? if so then i wish you the best.
2006-12-10 04:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If wherever you are, it LEGAL to get married at such a young age, and you know you wont regret anything and you have thought about this clearly...then...
get married and raised the baby together, if you trust yourself that you can handle marriage life then you've got guts...dont listen to what people have to say about loosing your life, becuz your not loosing anything...
Your just gaining something new...
2006-12-10 04:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you two make it? one of you or both are going to have to get a job and i dont think you can get a job at 14. well good luck with your decision. i am glad you guys are happy. but maybe you should wait intil you are a little bite older.
2006-12-10 04:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by teddybearleogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would wait. Is he the father of your son?
DO you really want to be tied down at 14?
I wouldnt wat to.
But if you both want to then go for it
2006-12-10 04:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋