My 41 year old wife had a mid-life crisis, and had a affair with a old man in his 50. She brings him to all the childrens sports events. Should I be so bold to bring my girlfriend that is a professional ball room dancer, and much younger to these events? I am trying to be distreet, for the kids...
2006-12-10 04:12:06 · 16 answers · asked by cc8462r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you fight fire with fire you will only make it that much worse. trying to make her jealous isn't a good idea and it also puts your ball room dancing friend in a weird spot. It will cause the Drama to get out of control. I would just leave it alone for a while.
2006-12-10 04:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will never understand why everyone simply wimps out to the person who did wrong? Why would you not bring your girlfriend? Infact, why would you even need to ask this guestion to start with. Discreet my *** and worried about the kids my ***. The kids and everyone else should look at your ex wife as well as her lover as just what they are. Both of them are deserving of no respect and you should not give her feelings or that of her lover a second thought. Trust me, they dont think of anyone else, which they make clear if you only have the nerve to see it.
Never ever let the party who has or is doing wrong dictate to you or cause you to feel funny. Put that on them and make them feel funny or cheap. Maybe if we took this tactic more often, people would think twice about what they do in the beginning.
2006-12-10 04:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you're having a midlife crisis too.
If it's an open marriage, then, why not bring your girlfriend? But, you won't win any friends over. You'll probably be the one to get blamed and not your wife (seeing as how everyone seems to be ok with her friend).
So my question is, if you both seemed to have moved on with other people, obviously aren't together anymore, why don't you divorce eachother instead of living this lie for the kids? I mean, they aren't stupid, and they probably already know what's going on.
2006-12-10 04:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur wife is dating and bringing her bf to the kids events and ur dating and u want ur kids to get to know ur gf i don't see what's wrong with you bringing her to a sporting event if she's willing to go and there isn't going to be a scene made by the ex wife then go for it no need to keep the gf locked away
2006-12-10 04:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by ypsilady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's bringing him--then why would you feel you cannot bring your girlfriend?? Bring her--be proud of her. Ad fro as the kids--they will make their own decisions and that is something you and their mother will just have to deal with and talk to your children about.
2006-12-10 04:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she brings her new firend to the kids games to bug you, she just loves the guy and wants him to share her life. If you want to bring your gf for the same reason then it's cool, but if you just want to bring your gf to make your ex-wife jealous it will confuse the kids and bother them. If your gf is going to share your life for a long time then it's ok to introduce her too.
2006-12-10 04:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT follow your ex (if she is your ex?) down the same path. Do you really want to sink to that level? Show up to support your kids and stop thinking about getting revenge on your (ex-)wife.
2006-12-10 04:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Crysania 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two are separated and filing for a divorce then it would be okay to bring her. Otherwise, neither one of you should be bringing anyone else.
2006-12-10 04:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, 50 is not old....secondly, I can see why she is with someone else....she is having a mid life crisis...he is an old man...you are the hero dating a hot babe who dances....get over yourself
2006-12-10 04:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are both separated,
& obviously you are, by all means take your girl.
Introduce her to the kids first, & be sure to ask her if she minds that the ex will be there..
if you're doing it for spite, don't bother....
2006-12-10 11:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋