I am writing on behalf of my daughter who has recently suffered three losses in the space of a month. I know you all think she's a ***** but she's my daughter and I don't like seeing her like this. What I want to know is how do you cope with such losses and how can I help her.
2006-12-10 03:53:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She wrote on here about her pregnancy, birth and sudden death of her baby. I am doing my best as her mother to help her but nothing's helping. I do not appreciate how you all slag her off saying she's a liar. All she wants is some advice on how to grieve. If you won't help her, help me. A mother to a mother.
2006-12-10 03:59:13 · update #1
As well as losing her baby, she lost her dad, of whom she was close to, both her grandparents and her uncle. I think she's on the brink of suicide.
2006-12-10 04:00:59 · update #2
As her mother, simply let her know you care.
It takes a couple of years to recover from a loss, and she may suffer from depression; justified, but depression nonetheless. Her doctor may prescribe an antidepressant for her, and it should be monitored by a psychiatrist to make sure it is the right one for her.
2006-12-10 04:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here goes am not a mother myself so maybe you might not care about my opinion. If i was a mother however and my daughter lost her own child then i would simply let her know you are thinking about her and whenevr she wants to talk you will be there. dont just tell her you will be there and then when she needs you your not actually there as many mothers tend to do that. Give her time to come to terms with what has happened it may take her days, months or even years before she can get on with her life but as long as you let her know as her mother that you love her and always will in my opinion you are already doing your part. she is very vulnerable at the moment and knowing that her mother is their surely will not put her on the brink of suicide she needs time to grieve and so do you as you have also lost people that you loved dearly let her know she isnt alone and together you can both get through your loss. good luck and my thoughts are with you both x x
2006-12-10 04:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by BabyPinkRocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Vicky, Yes I've experienced loss and found allowing the passage of time to be helpful. I don't know about Grief or Loss counselling, but it may speed up the process. Although it was a specialty offered to me during study. Great Question. Best Wishes. Mars Mission Soon In A Galaxy Near Yours.. Source(s): Studies.
2016-05-23 02:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I have not read all of the entries in this I have a daughter who with her husband has suffered similar circumstances with pregnancy etc
The reallity is you don't "cope" you just adapt. I think we all just about manage to fumble through. Be there for them as you are doing. Become the worlds best listener. Become the girls best friend and try not to advise but to listen to what she wants
It's very hard to watch as your family slowly unwravels before you but I believe that there is always a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel
The tunnel seems endless. If religion is your thing then fine.
My family is the most important thing to me and it I could wrap them in cotten wool I would do but the reallity is I can't. So as parents we just have to listen and be there
And when you want time to cry hopefully someone will be there for you. For now it's your family's time to need you
Good luck with everything and hopefully Christmas will not be a too bleak time
2006-12-10 04:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter.I was through something similar about 10 years ago.Has far has the loss of her baby goes.I know she will never get over that.It has been a decade for me and I still get upset when I think of the baby I lost.But I did find some comfort in a book about miscarriages and the loss of you infants.I don't remember the name right now but it is a blue paper back with a picture of a fetus on it.In it discuss the many theories on loss and it just has a lot of comforting things in it.Has for the other losses she could think it the way I did with the loss of my brother. I don't know if you are a faithful person or not but myself I kept telling myself that god took my brother home to help him take care of my baby for me. That she is safe up there with him.If you can afford it you could try to get her to a grief counselor.Talking about things is supposed to help.If she is a person whom believes in god remind her that she can't do anything to harm herself that if she does she wont be allowed to be with her baby when it is her time.I don't know if any of this helps.But please let her know she is not alone.Do you best to be there for her.
2006-12-11 05:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for her loss,and yours.You never stop grieving for the people you lose.It depends on how you cope with it.Some people can cope on there own and others can't.She needs medical help for her losses and thaughts. She needs to know it is not her fault. Life has its ups and downs.She will have her ups again,She just needs help with the downs, this is where a psychiatrist or psychologist can help.Life will get better in time,you just need to be patient and be there for her.She needs to know that she is not alone in this.Tell her to think positive and everthing will work-out.Tell her the people she lost are looking down on her,and are there pulling for her to get on with her life and to make the most of her life as possible.They are counting on her......And so am I.....Good Luck....
2006-12-10 04:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say along with the rest take her to counselling and get her to stay off of here for a while. If she is that down the last place she should be is on here with some of the idiots who don't care.
2006-12-10 04:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by currynut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say time is a great healer, and it is. Patience, love and support will help. You never forget your pain, but things do get better and you gain experience in helping and understanding others who have suffered. God bless.
2006-12-10 04:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's a ***** (whatever you mean by that)
what sort of losses? death of loved ones? boyfriend dumped her? lost her purse?? a bit more detail will probably get better answers
2006-12-10 03:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her, listen to her, let her no your always there to listen.
nothin will help heal her pain or sorrow, except time. time is a great healer.
best wishes for both u and your daughter
2006-12-10 04:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by geminially 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋