i have lived in america my whole life and have recently went to india for the first time...i didn't have a good time-it is really different from America. I stayed in Punjab (Sikh parents) and saw different cultures which i did enjoy. I was just surprised at some things with society, like how women go to college and don't get a job right after they finish college and just wait to get marry. Also, i was shocked that married couples live at home with their parents and share no love for each other. My cousin had a love marriage with a hindu and they are nice but they live with my aunt at home so my cousin-in-law and aunt always fight.
So i am asking all of the Indians, what do you like or dislke about your indian culture...what do you want to change and how how would your parents respond? (thoughts on arranged marriages, customs)
Also, next time i come to india, i want to go clubing, but i don't know if their are any good clubs in Punjab...where should i go and what should i watch for?
2006-12-10 03:38:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hi Dreamer, well 'm american latin and when i went to my country in Spain, things were alot different too. I can understand what you're saying. I'm not going to belittle anyone's country becos i feel each country has good and bad. We're not all perfect or claim to be. Being an american, ppl think that we're selfish and I myself disagree. I dont take things for granted and I make sure that my children know the difference between right and wrong. My kids are growing up respecting elders and so worth becos that is wat i thought them. I hate to admit that our divorce rate is high but there are sum of us that do believe in our vows even if we divorce becos I chose not to be with sumone that continued cheating on me and abusing me. I have that right to choose. That doesnt make me a bad person. I know that God has someone 4 me. Anyhow, all I'm saying is that, yet we may live in different countries, I feel deep in our hearts we all live for the same reason - love of our family and taking care of them, Respecting them and work for them. It's all the same. Take care and God Bless U all!
2006-12-11 19:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Juanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad you enjoyed our culture.As you said our country is different from america,I would say it is VERY different from america.In India childrens (14-15 yrs of age) do not bring guns to the school to shoot their own friends,they do not stab their own teachers.
Women in INDIA do get extremely good jobs after completing their studies,but sometimes they choose not to accept or quit jobs after getting married.Though this is not true for all Indian women,some of them continue their job even after marraige.
Further I don't think there is any harm in married couples living with their parents & it has nothing to do with sharing of love(as per the CIA World Book the divorce rate in India is 1.1% whereas is US it is 50%).In INDIA we do not confine our definition of family to just 'Me-n-My Wife/Husband' our definition of Family includes our parents too.There may be some misunderstandings among in-laws (as you mentioned is the case betwn. your cousin-in-law & your aunt) but they patchup equally fast.Also I think it is our duty to look after our parents when we are able to,as indians we do not believe in leaving our parents alone as soon as we start to earn or get married.
I agree there are some things in Indian culture that need to be changed,but we love our country & are proud of being an Indian.You know my grand-father tell me that during the Indo-china war in 1962,lakhs of Indian women donated their ornaments,even Mangala Sutras (it is something no Indian woman parts with) for the army fund towards war efforts & this is something which can happen only in our country
2006-12-10 04:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problems in India are different from those in USA. The supply of qualified people is more than available jobs. The unemployment rate is very high. So you find educated men and women without jobs. Now India's GDP is growing at 8% p.a and if this continues every one will be employed. There is a forecast that India will have shortage of manpower in future.
In Indian culture it is Ok for married couples to live with their parents. There is no social security system in India and the children look after their parents in old age. Joint family system is still in vogue in some families although many people are moving towards nuclear families. I can understand that an American will find this system surprising. Indians will find it surprising why children do not live with their parents in USA.
The Indian culture is different from American culture. It is not wise to judge one culture with the background of another culture.
Marital discontent exists in all countries. People try to find reasons for the discontent by attributing reasons to circumstances like you are trying to find fault with your cousin's marriage. Are American marriages full of contentment because they live separately from their parents? The divorce rate is about 50% in USA whereas it will be much less in India. So it does not matter where you live as long as you understand that marital discord is common and learn to live with it.
Indian culture has many good things like the following:
1) Respect for elders
2) Sanctity of marriage. Normally people do not divorce their spouse.
3) Inner beauty is more important than external beauty
4) Liberal beliefs about God. Anyone can practice their religion of choice. Politics has spoilt the scene in recent times.
5) Spiritual values are given higher priority than material comforts.
6) Education is held in high esteem.
7) People help others in need. During the Bombay torrrential rains and flooding, people on the streets were supported by those in their homes by offering food and shelter. In America people stole and looted when Katrina struck.
8) Indians do not believe in attacking neighbouring countries which they have not done for the last 1000 years.
9) The emergence of saintly men/women at regular intervals to guide the people on spiritual path.
10) Fine arts and culture are passed on from one generation to the next.
The following changes are welcome:
1) Men feel that they are superior to women although this feeling is on the decline in educated urban citizens.
2) Mothers-in-law try to dominate daughters-in-law which should change and equal respect should be given to all women.
3) Creativity needs to be encouraged.
4) Confusion regarding material pleasures needs understanding.
5) Merit should be given due respect.
6) Divisive tendencies among people based on religion, caste etc. needs to be minimised. The politicians encourage divisive politics for their narrow partisan gains.
More opportunities need to be created so that the young generation can earn their livelihood through honest means. The economic cycle is turning for the better.
2006-12-10 04:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ah, he is a gray area type. Since no individual is responsible for the success of his/her business? You can also conclude Obama will not take responsibility for any failure. Since it is the One Nation and One People. We are ALL responsible for any failures and success. He is quite unique among our Presidents. The Buck Stops with no one and everyone. He's neither a coward nor stupid. He is dangerous and all too clever.
2016-05-23 02:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by MaryBeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I will ask you,do you really feel proud to be an indian or not? you will get your answers by then.
2006-12-10 03:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by funny_coolguy1975 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come 2 chandigarh,u wil find everything u wanna c in India.
2006-12-10 03:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by shah rukh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay in America. You will be much better off.
2006-12-10 04:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by ally_oop_64 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋