My boyfriend always says that i am negative and if i changed how i responded to things, then maybe things would be better for me. So the newest thing that came up that is bothering me is that, we have been living together for a year. He is a pilot. He has took a part time job that I was not really wanting him to take. Anyway, he told me that he has to fly the owner to the carribeans from the 21st-26th. So he will be away for Christmas. Also for the same amount of time for another holiday coming up soon after. Well I'm not turning cartwheels!! So I am suppose to be supportive, yet I am going to be by myself for Christmas, totally. Which if I say that then I am being ungrateful of his career, and selfish. But he is going to be living it up in the carribeans! I have no family and friends where I live, so I will be alone. How do you not be negative and be ok with it?
2006-12-10 03:31:17 · 3 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So the issue here is you would rather him be going to the barren waste lands of alaska than a dreamy area in the carribeans... I so understand,.. but if he is a pilot and he can't help where he is hired to go... he has to go where his job takes him... get you a ticket and meet him there... you can always have xmas when you get back with your other family... this part time job is something he took on to better your financially... don't punish him for where his job takes him... but its ok for you to let him know it makes you sad... you have a right to your feelings but it wrong for you to make it out like he is being the bad guy here... hope things work out for you... it's sucks to be alone for the holidays... goodluck
2006-12-10 03:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! I feel so sorry for u! well have u told ur boyfriend that u want him to stay and i was wondering that if u r boyfriend and girlfriend and he told u that he thinks ur negative then well why r u still together? anyways if thats what u truly feel u will be lonely for christmas then tell him that u want him to stay and try to be more positive. Say that u don't want to be lonely and have no friends and family and without u i will feel lonely, i'm not saying that i don't want u to go but i want u to be happy.
2006-12-10 11:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by bbgurl5036 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b4 u do anything in life you have to love yourself. You have to be able to look at yourself no matter what and say I really am okay with who I am as a person...then you can move up from there.
2006-12-10 11:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋