how to be happy even in hard times of life?

Question

ok i know life is sweet, but it isnt always sweet as a sugar.
what is best way to live our life to be happy even in hard times

Answer 1

How very lucky you must be if your life swings between sweet and sweeter.

Try helping others, children in particular. That may have some bitter-sweet moments, but overall should sweeten your life.

Helping people having a harder time than you are is a good way to get through hard times.

Answer 2

This is a very good question for me to answer right now due to the fact that I am living 4500 miles from home with my husband he works for the government and this is the first time I have every been away from my son (30) and three grandchildren and it is the Holiday Season. I have been feeling really bad the past few weeks. I love my husband to death and would not want to be anywhere without him but I miss my kids so bad it does not seem like holidays to me. I have been very sad and have thought about this for about a month now. I talked to my husband about it a few days ago and he is such a wonderful guy. I think you have to live things as they come in life and when the bad things happen which they always do keep thinking of the good things and remember that the bad things can only keep us down as long as we will let them. Keep you head up always think positive. And remember everything happens for a reason. Right now we are going out to get a christmas tree today. I have a picture of all the kids and I am making that a part of our tree. I am also going to call my grandkids and have them make me something to hang on my tree. For a little while there I thought this Christmas was going to be the end of my world. But it was only a thought and now I have thought of good things to make it better here. I hope this helps you a little bit. Sit back and think about the problem and work it out and get started on something new. Life is to short to be unhappy.
Good Luck. And have a wonderful Holiday season.

Answer 3

Yeah life is not always sweet, but just remeber that your life is way better then some peoples. It can be way worse. People always say oh my god i am so depressed because something happend like my girlfriend or boyfriend brok up with me. Some people are dying beause they don't have food to eat and kids are left with out parents and without money and don't know if they'll survive or not. Just be Thankful for everything god brought to your life. There are so many good things in are lives and people only think of the bad things. Life is not perfect nothing is. Just have a good attitude and everything is going to be okay.

Answer 4

Although going through difficult times never seem good .It is a part of life with all animals .and is as much a part of health as being happy .It makes animals of all kinds stronger both mentally and physically . If there were no hurdles in life we would grow weak . Life needs challenges for health .It maintains that the strongest members of a species survive .Many times with humans ,times we think are hard times .Later in life when we look back at it .We realize it brought us closer to the people around us.Which,from the bonding of struggling together and depending on some one. That we were happier than we are ,when we have, what we think we want .

Answer 5

Life isn't always sweet can be an understatement. For some of us, life is predominantly difficult and trying. Happiness if optional; contentment is a choice. We focus on what is important; do the best we can everyday; go to sleep with a clear conscience. That is what will keep us through all seasons of life.

Answer 6

Start by being happy with yourself. It is not an easy thing to do, but, as it is said, if you don't love yourself first you won't be able to love anybody else. Thus the first step. Then live within your means. Even if you earn 200,000$ a year and spend 300,000$ a year, you're in a hole. You breathe a lot better and sleep better if you owe nothing. Live within your means and pay your bills on time. Take care of yourself. Exercise. Treat yourself to a small "something or other" on occasion.

Answer 7

There are many bad habits people get into mentally due to societies conditioning. Also probably due to our very nature.

The simplest thing people do is attach themselves to physical objects. For a simple example, a car. When you get it you are made to be happy by the car, because you have conditioned yourself to believe that a car = happiness. And so when you lose the car you will be unhappy as well. Your happiness I should now point out is a mental state, and what you have done is to attach your mental state to physical objects. So as inevitably will happen, the physical objects change and so then does your mental state. You have surrendered control of your happiness to all of your surroundings.

Another way people become unhappy is through attachment to mental objects in the form of memories. They attached themselves to something so that it made them happy, like in the car example. Then even though the object is lost, that attachment is still there. It has become a permanent mental object that still controls how you feel. Until you either get rid of it, or change it, you will suffer.

People also create mental objects out of their own imagination, and become very attached to them. Like you will hope that this person will fall in love with you, and everything will be perfect. Even thinking about it makes you happy, until you realize that the reality is that they do not like you that way. Then that mental object makes you sad equally as much as it made you happy! And probably for just as long.

Then there's just the physical nature of the mind itself. People have so many physiological cues that they ascribe certain values to, then they react accordingly. People have all sorts of chemical issues that can influence your perception and feelings.

The full understanding of all aspects of happiness cannot be explained, and for each person it is different. I personally have used logic and self control and meditation to try and gain control over what my mind does. I try to see the pitfalls of attachment and remember that happiness is a mental state, not a physical state. A Corvette does not include a bag full of happiness that you can open up and withdraw from until you lose the Corvette. The happiness was already within yourself, you just set up your mental functions to not allow access to that happiness until you had the Corvette. Once you eliminate that conditioning you can access the happiness directly.

Meditation is a form of biofeedback. You can use it to take control of things that are normally beyond your control within your own body. You can make yourself dream while you are awake, or control your own heartbeat, or feel like your body is limitless. You can experience almost any feeling actually. Also you can learn to recondition your response to stimuli, or internalize the queues for happiness. You can try to identify and define mental objects and deal with them.

Well this is my understanding of it. I hope it sheds some light on the situation. I know it's helped me alot. It's not an overnight solution, it is a long process. It's not a simple subject, and it's not a simple answer, but without writing an essay to support my opinions I have made a brief attempt to show outline them : )

Answer 8

I know its easy to say think optimistic, especially during those hard to get through times, but whats your alternative? Bad things happen to everyone, its part of life, but those are the things that are going to make you stronger in the end. You just have to think " I know there's a reason I'm going through this right now, and I know its tough, but if I can get through this I can get through anything." I believe that for every bad thing that happens something good will com your way. Think positively and everything will turn out the way its suppose to.

Answer 9

Net working of a good friend and a savings acct as it does take money and if it is Love you speak of Then you have learned a lesson of what not to do the next time and if hard times was not your fault and You wonder why YOU,,,,This is Life of lessons to be learned an an attitude and being smart about with whom you are connected to.

Answer 10

I believe that the hard times we experience in our life are a way of God humbling us. A way for him to get us to refleck on how we are using our time that we spend here on this earth. A way for him to let us know we may need to make some changes for the better. Also a way for him to make us appreciate the good times even more and give him thanks. I am 50 years old and my husband and I are going on 26yrs of marriage. I know that life is a roller coaster ride and have learned to greatly cherish the good times and be sure to give the Lord thanks for them on a daily basis. During the bad times I ask the Lord for guidance and help to overcome them. Somehow we have always been able to pull through the bad times but with the help of my husband and the grace of God. You will make it through to the good times but take time during the bad times to refleck and don't ever forget them but learn from them.