what are good ways to deal with hurtfull disrespect?
2006-12-10 03:14:22 · 16 answers · asked by danielle.stokes 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wear a shirt that speaks your mind. You can buy them online. They have some good statements on them.
2006-12-10 03:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why deal with disrespect, it shouldn't happen to you. If it's your boss well then you do have to put up with it, but you can do your best to ignore it. If it's from family and friends tell them they are disrespecting you and ask them why they are doing it, be specific and do when it happens, sometimes people do this under the guise of humour or they don't even realize it. Nevertheless your best bet is quiet diginity and don't allow it to come your way. If it's a stranger direspecting you just ignore it, it doesn't matter. I always try and deal with it, right away. If it is work related document it everytime it happens and start looking for another job where you cat start over. The most important thing is if people get the feeling that you will allow it they will do it so respect yourself first and disrespect won't come your way. Good luckl
2006-12-10 03:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have honestly never been disrespected for being gay. Maybe because I have a good sense of humor and am not offended by other peoples views. Disrespect comes in many ways, and since this is in the gay section - that's what you probably are talking about. In traffic - I don't have a bumpersticker, therefore no problem there. In person - I don't sashay, therefore no problem. With workmates...I respect them, so they respect me. Among friends - I encourage them to tease me and I tease them too...but I don't hang with people that are unreasonable. If disrespect occurs - I ask myself, do I deserve it? Did I do something wrong? Was there anything I could have done to avoid it? If all else fails - be prepared. Think of responses to common things people might say. If someone calls me a f a g....I act (out of character) all gay and hurt and say "are you sure"? I"m gay....OMG, no (fall to floor) what will I do"? "Will you help me through this" (hug them). Obviously just kidding...but the ultimate goal is to embarass them back. Plan ahead.
2006-12-10 03:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by tampablueman 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Thanking them for their bright inside and wishing them a good day:then just move on:they will at least be quiet for some time:they expect the same kind of language back.
Never stoop that low:it makes you no different then them,you do the exact same thing:just do not do that ever.
Move on and ignore them.
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2006-12-10 03:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well when something is hurtful to us, it's not because the other person did it, but because we allowed ourselves to feel hurt because of it. Blow it off, something someone says should not matter because everyone lives in their own little world. Be so strong that nothing anyone says can shake you.
But if you want to approach the person, just say "I did not deserve that" or "That was very disrespectful to me." or whatever is related to the situation.
2006-12-10 03:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Celestite 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off your feelings are yours and nobody else's,you make a choice on how you feel. Every time someone says something or does something you make the choice on how you react to it. You may want to reach out and smack them but that would only bring you to their level,so ignore it they are most likely not worth the effort anyway. Just remember friends and family are the only ones who matter and sometimes you have to set boundaries for them too.
2006-12-10 03:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by chesva58 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. model respect
2. correct instances of disrespect
3. create an ongoing communication re: what constitutes respect
4. refuse to accept disrespect without a consequence----this will reinforce proper respect
5. TEACH the various forms of respect:
a. self
b. for others
c. for nature
d. for animals
e. for GOD
2006-12-10 03:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the insult. Respond kindly to the other person...it keeps them guessing....whatever you do refuse to engage in like behavior as it only brings you down to their level. It is really a mind over matter thing. If someone says something ugly to you, especially an unknown somebody, simply realize you should not mind because quite frankly, they do not matter.
2006-12-10 03:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by mortgagegirl101 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
getting angry and cussing out the person that disrespected you is a good way because in a way you are trying to hurt them back.
but sometimes by not responding to the person that will make them think twice and they just might apologize.
2006-12-10 03:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ras_Ann 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your respectful way of handling their disrespect = turn the other cheek/give the benefit of the doubt.
Kill them with kindness and
r-e-s-p-e-c-t........
2006-12-10 03:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Quest 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋