I have always wanted breast implants and my husband keeps telling me no even though we can afford them and he spends tons of money on things he wants. His ex-fiance had them and he has mentioned before that he liked them. It really hurts my feelings. Does he not want me to get them b/c I am his wife and he would get jealous or what's the deal here?
2006-12-10 02:59:39 · 41 answers · asked by adi23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are a few thing's it could be, it could be the fact that he is worried that it will create unwanted attraction from the opposite sex which would make him jealous,It also could be that he loves you just the way you are, however on the other hand , if he really loved you he would let you coz whatever makes you happy should make him happy, and after all , married or not surely its your decision because its you that will have to go through the pain ,its your body,,hes married to you, he doesn't own you!!!!!
Go for it girl you only live once!!!
lol offer him a t/w everyday he might agree without ill feeling!!! hahaha
2006-12-10 03:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by anney 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he knows how fake and tacky they are, and doesn't want you to fall in to that category. Implants aren't all they're cracked up to be, they *look* great with certain clothing, but they certainly don't look natural- not by a long stretch. Is he citing a financial issue, or is he just citing he doesn't want you to get them. What's the real reason you want the implants? Who are you trying to impress? You have to look at it from a male perspective. Wife has nice perky breasts now, men will raise an eyebrow now, because they're so nice and perky, and will hit on his wife.
Having larger breasts isn't about improving your self image, it's about enhancing something that will make you more enticing to the opposite sex. You should be happy with what God gave you. You husband married you just the way you are, why would you want to go and change that ...for the sake of appearances?
2006-12-10 03:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right track.....implants get alot of attention! Men love them and he knows this, plus there are those women that are so proud they must show every guy they know. He doesn't want you to be one of them. I had implants too and my boyfriend was concerned that I would be one of those women, and when he found out I wasn't, he was thrilled with the results and with the way I handled the attention. Reassure him that they are for his viewing only and that just because you get them you will not be entering wet t-shirt contests and becoming a stripper.
But please make sure you are doing it for you and not him or anybody else. I had wanted implants since the birth of my son, breastfeeding and pregnancy did mine in, so it had been a contemplated and well researched decision on my part long before I ever met my boyfriend. I truly believe my boyfriend loved me just the way I was, but he was surprised at how much he actually enjoyed them, too. I am glad I did!!!
2006-12-10 03:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you why your husband is against your wanting implants, but I can tell you that my ex-wife of 31 yrs wanted them and it was the start of the downfall of our marriage. I was accustomed to and have always been drawn to smaller breasted women, so the size had an adverse effect on me. Also her reasoning for wanting them was that she dealt with the public and wanted to look good. She was the night auditor at a Ramada Inn and never hardly had any customers after 11 pm and wore a jacket that would hide them anyway. Besides, who would want a customer looking at their breasts. I always look at the eyes. Well, that's my story and I'm sticking to it. Good luck in figuring this one out.
2006-12-10 03:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for a man to tell his wife that he loves her just as she is. Although he may like the fact of implants, inside he is probably scared that once you have them done...you will not want him anymore. It may sound silly, but that is the way a lot of men feel when their wives have any type of alterations done to their physical look. They feel like they have to compete to stay with you. If it is something that you really want for yourself, I say you go and get it. He will still be there and if you love him and show him how much you do he should feel more comfortable with your decision. Don't back down, if it will bring u up.
2006-12-10 03:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how much sense that last statement of yours makes, jealous? Naw, he probably doesn't wanna be touching some big fake boobs everyday. A dude will pick real breasts over fake ones any day. I know I will. I like looking a big fake ones of strippers or in movies, but I don't wanna be close to those things. It might put an eye out.
2006-12-10 03:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds very insecure. If getting them makes you happy then, he should support you. Know that insecurities like this are a sign of an unfaithful person. Usually these people try to keep their mate plain so no one else takes interest. This way they feel more secure when they are away enjoying big breasted women or muscular men (whatever applies).
2006-12-10 03:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lab 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need breast implants. If your husband is like me, he may prefer the real deal. I know I like the real thing. Plus there are health risks that go with that. Why take a chance?
2006-12-10 03:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes yours exactly how they are men find it hard to tell women what they really think i would take this as a compliment maybe his ex had hers done because they where awful so he supported her decison, sit down and talk to him, another reason may be that he knows the risks and loves you too much too have you fo through risks, just talk to him and explain the procedure and the risks and tell ask him why he does not want you to go ahead with the opperation, also make sure that you are happy with what you are wanting to do and also make sure that you have a highly recomended doctor do the opperation, do NOT rush into anything!!! good luck x
2006-12-10 03:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some reasons might be selfish. Some other reasons might be very good reasons. I won't list them here.
The point is: It's a marriage.
If you don't think he will give you an honest answer when you ask him, or if you believe your life demands you to risk your relationship for the sake of appearance, then you might consider a counselor.
2006-12-10 03:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋