I have a dilema that I'm hoping someone can help me with. I've been married for 7 years and have been out of love with my hubby for the past three of them. We have two children that I homeschool and I don't work (well, I do, but my job as a labor assistant is not regular - when I get the call, I go). I have just started training to be a midwife as well.
My hubby and I decided to have an open relationship the beginning of this year and I found a new love. I am completely in love with this person. But, if I go with him, I'm going to lose my career b/c I have to find a job to support me and the kids and get a new place. If I let him go, I can stay where I am and everything will be the same except for a broken heart.....
In your opinion, is love worth leaving security for? I could probably pick up my career at a later time in life, I'm just scared that I'm making the wrong decision if I decide to stay because of security. I don't think I can handle losing my new love...
2006-12-10 02:55:02 · 7 answers · asked by Midwife MaMa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I also want to say that yes, my boyfriend knows that I am married, but he also knows we have been disconnected for over three years. My husband and I have just raised children the past three years, we haven't been 'together' AT ALL. He wants to make it work out 'all of a sudden' but those feelings have been gone for so long....like I mentioned, it's basically a security thing.
2006-12-10 03:03:22 · update #1
is your right to do anything you want.
the problem is that your kids need 2 parents in this period of their lifes, without this they will don't evolve good.
the first need in a human life is the food , the second is security(that included living place).
don't do a mistake right now, isn't worth it.
you can start over with your husband, try to make new stuff together, hang out like you were you was young. walk together, prepare dinner together, i think that the family is on the first place.
you can't be sure that your new love will last but you are sure that you can help the old one to grow strong again.
in this life you can't follow only your heart, you have to use your head too.
in any chose you make remember that the kids are on the first place and after that on the second place is you.
think about it, maybe we can talk about.
2006-12-10 03:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by dexter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your children's health and happiness first. How would they feel about a broken home?
Put your education and ability to work right next to that. You need personal security, in order to be able to take care of yourself and your children.
Nevermind, the lover... You and your husband need counseling. You have a family.
2006-12-10 11:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kay F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you wait and see. You may find that once the honeymoon is over with your new love, that you will be better off. Take your time.
2006-12-10 10:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by happytone365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your new boyfriend know that you're still married??
You need to make a decision.... is it your husband or your boyfriend?? THEN you make a career choice.
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2006-12-10 10:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Career first always is the one that is going to feed you don't you think? Love won't feed you I guess?
2006-12-10 13:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of a new love wants you to start on your own in a new place. i think you are getting used
2006-12-10 10:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, just try and put your children first, and think of their future, the rest will all work out
2006-12-10 11:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by kkdd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋