so yeah my boyfriend and I had been together for a year and five months. he has treated me poorly at times due to his selfishness and immaturity but we did have some good times. for the past month we have been fighting on and off but it was getting better and then he started a fight n in order to win it he broke up with me n then the nxt day came begging back apologizing and saying all this stuff. I'm not going to type it up becuase it is too personal. However, now a week later...I am missing him very much. I haven't missed him up till yesterday. Now I find myself wanting him back even though I told him there's no chance of that happening. What should I do?
2006-12-10 02:52:29 · 16 answers · asked by ola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't take him back! It's just normal that you miss him after a break up. Time will heal you. In the meantime, you deserve better. I have a friend with almost same situation as yours. I would say be an independent woman, show him that you can be happy w/o him. Turn to a trusted girl friend who can be support to you.
You have written yourself that he treated you poorly due to selfishness and immaturity, so unless he wise up and consider of your feeling, why bother?
Hope it helps!
2006-12-10 03:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by meiwij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably cheating why does he break up for a day here a day there that is immature. You dont need someone like that in your life. Youll have been together for over a year dont let that be the only reason youll are staying together. I was with this guy for two years and it didnt work I didnt want to call it quits cause i felt it would be wasted time. But in the long run it paid off.
2006-12-10 03:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by Evie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he broke up with you just to prove that he won the fight, then he's more immaure that I thought! You don't break up with people 'cause you want to "win the fight." That's childish and stupid, and he's way too immature for his own good.
You're wasting your time with someone who always has to "win." Trust me, you don't want to be with someone like that. I was, and it just ended up ending. He was immature and selfish. He wanted everything his way, and he always had to out-do me.
You don't need to be with someone like this. They will only drag you down and put a large weight of frustration on your shoulders. He's not worth it, trust me.
I know you may miss him and want to get back with him, but once you get back with him, you will soon realize why you broke up with him- he's selfish and immature. You're so much better than that, and you can DO better than that. You don't deserve to have someone weighing you down when you've been a good girlfriend.
GOOD LUCK!
~*[)AbBy(]*~
2006-12-10 08:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you what to do but you probably won't. You should at least make the guy wait a week or two. This will drive him nuts. The guy will probably send you flowers cards maybe jewelry, so make him wait a couple weeks while you think it over. Be smart and see what happens. The "follow your heart" cloche usually only works in fairy tales and movies. Remember he dumped you, so tell him you need time, because you are feeling hurt and confused by all this. Good luck.
2006-12-10 03:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A week is way too little time to decide. Give it at least a month with out talking to him. I know it's hard. I you still want him back then go ahead and take him back. During that time don't talk to him or just sit at home thinking about him. Go out and try to forgett about him.
2006-12-10 02:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by One Love <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you miss him, or do you miss just having someone? 'Cause you will find someone else. Keep in mind there is a reason why he is an ex.
If you honestly think he's worth it and you can work it out, go for it, but don't get back together with him just because you can.
2006-12-10 02:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by tabby90 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are very strong and I understand how you feel. If you want my honest opinion, I wouldn't take him back if I were you. You deserve to be treated with respect. If he's running back to you, no other woman would ever want to be with him. He's obviously been rejected and since he can't be without a woman, he's running back to you.
He doesn't deserve you.
2006-12-10 02:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you miss him and it hurts but take it as a blessing in disguise. it wasnt working so you guys broke up and maybe its for the best. i have been there. i decided to stop taking my guys calls and didnt call him, its been 2 weeks and i havent thought about looking back.
2006-12-10 02:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 09:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just level all what the gud things abd bad things he done to you...if you still love him you should forgive him but not to get him back to you unless he knew what his mistake..and make sure that he wont do it again because my ex abnormal husband cheated me soooo much and he never change because a cheater is always a cheater....
2006-12-10 02:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋