I dont believe in god, but my parents REALLY do. I told them that I wouldn't go to church anymore because I thought I got nothing out of it. Now, every Sunday they've come up with something to try to make me go to church, a good thing or a bad thing. Last week they said if I came I could go to Target, so i went. This week I wanted to make cookies but didn't have some things I needed, my dad said I couldn't get them if I didn't go to church, i wanted to stand up for what i thought so, I didn't go. Am I doing the right thing? Are my parents doing the right thing? thanks :)
2006-12-10 02:20:34 · 15 answers · asked by Red Sea Of Hope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't really see how you cannot believe in ANY God, you must not be paying attention to the world around you.
Take a class in Biology, and see how complicated the world, especially the human body, is; you will surely change your mind about whether or not God exists.
In the meantime, give your parents a chance. Nothing BAD can happen if you believe in God but there is no God.
However, if you don't believe, and there IS a God, you are in trouble.
But to answer your question, if your parents were not FEEDING you because you wouldn't go to mass with them, that would be different. But the fact that they are only rewarding you to go to mass doesn't really seem like they are forcing it on you...
2006-12-10 02:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by i hate hippies but love my Jesus 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I went through the same kind of thing with my parents when I was a teenager. I realized that I didn't believe, but they wanted me to go to church. They tried bribing me, which is essentially what your parents are doing, but I didn't give in. If they said I could have a reward of some sort if I went to church, I just said no. Same if they wouldn't let me do something unless I went to church. I think that's what helped convince them that I was serious. After about six months they gave up. Shortly after that they quit going to church as well.
It's a power struggle. Not only are you fighting for your own identity and independence, but they're trying to continue to mold you. There should be compromise in the relationship, but they should see that forcing you to go to church won't change your beliefs. This particular battle has already been lost by them.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 09:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Rose D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell us your age, so I assume you are living in mommy and daddy's house and mommy and daddy are paying your expenses and buying you food, putting a roof over your head, etc.? If the above is true, then your are wrong. Your parents must love you and care for you very much. And you are wrong because you are not honoring your parents in any way.
You will learn during your lifetime that we don't exist here on earth just by chance. Luckily for us, some great people chronicled the early times in the Bible, and it has been handed down so that we can learn where we came from and where we are to go next.
So when they beg and bribe you to go to church, you should ask yourself why they go to so much trouble, when it would be much easier to leave you home alone. They love you and want you to go and take what is good at church. You owe them that courtesy.
Regardless, if my first sentence is true, then do it because they are your livelihood and you could not live without them.
Good Luck
2006-12-10 02:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you have made the choice to not believe in God. Therefore, your parents should respect that. Explain to your parents that being an Atheist does not change you as a person. You are still respectful and love them very much. Your parents aren't doing what they should as parents by depriving you of things in order to get you to attend church. Stand by your beliefs and ask them if they love you enough to respect you. I am sure they will realize that their bahavior will only drive you further away from then.
2006-12-10 02:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I have to say I commend your ability to use your own mind to determine what you believe instead of taking what you were taught at home and rolling with it. Good for you!!! I'm curious how old you are. That's just amazing. So many people just don't do that!
Do they know your actual opinion on God, or did you just tell them you don't get anything out of going to church? In other words...have you talked to them about your beliefs? If you've already tried to LOGICALLY explain to them why you feel this way about church and God and they are continuing to blackmail you, then I don't think that's right. I know you're the younger one here and everyone is supposed to "respect their elders" but I'm a firm believer in respect all the way around. You're obviously old enough to think and make decisions on your own when it comes to religion, so in my opinion, it's disrespectful of them to shove their beliefs on you.
Again, I commend you for thinking outside the box!!!
2006-12-10 02:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by sharonvania 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, well for you. When I used to be a child I deliberate on ready, however then I forgot one night time! I don't have any regrets although, I don't have any purpose of having married and I, sorry for being crude, however I particularly like intercourse and flings. Some folks are the wedding forms, in my opinion I'd lose interest.
2016-09-03 09:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yea you are doing the right thing. First of all if you don't believe in god then thats fine and your parents should respect that and not force you to go to churh and second of all if they are pushing you that is wrong for them to do that. You don't believe so it is pointless for you to go to church to hear some one praising something you don't believe in and a is waste of your time! so whats the point of going to church? there is none for you! and Tell your parents that. Tell them it is just wasting your time and you don't believe in god. explain why you don't believe in god.
Good Luck.
2006-12-10 02:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by gingerg50 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lemme tell ya sista, there is way to much proof that there is a God, i personally had a 3 wheeler wreck and hit my head on a cast iron wagon wheel and flipped over my son into an alley and was passed out, he thought i was dead, but i woke up just as the 3 wheeler was coming down on him and jumped this barbed wire fence that was as tall as me, and didnt get hurt, and grabbed my little boy as the 3 wheeler was comin down, it got stuck in the fence and my little boy fell off and the 3 wheeler was jumping up and down as it was still in gear. anyways later my brain swelled up bigger than my skull and i didnt have insurance, i only knew that i had horrible headaches,so i just kept getting this codene stuff. well one night my hubby came home and i kept saying i just wanted to go to sleep, and he wouldnt let me, all of my perifial vision was gone at this point and i was jus trying to go to sleep, he kept saying no stay awake cuz there was something weird going on with me, so he and my youngest son laid hands on me and prayed for me, i have never felt anything like that in my life, i was healed, it even went thru my son, and he was like i have never had that feeling before, and he was a little little boy at the time, he would have no reason to make this up, we still talk about that to this day, that was the most awesome feeling in the world. i have had alot of healings since then, but none that big. and i did find out later from a nurse, that my brain had swelled up bigger than my skull and i was trying to go to sleep cuz i was dying!!! i am living proof that there is a God and he is very real!!!!!! i heard a true story of a woman somewhere that was on her deathbed, dying of aids and God healed her and to this day she hasnt even tested positive for hiv, there are so many stories of healing, where do you think your gonna go when you die, if im right, then you will see heaven and not make it in, and its the most beautiful place you can imagine, but if im wrong, what do i have to lose, so ive lived a life with more morals than some, and i still sin, as everyone will sin. so know there is a God!!! hes very real
2006-12-10 03:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it...Proverbs 22:6
2006-12-10 02:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Red Sea of Hope? Then you do believe in God! :)
Moses will be happy that you remembered him, Dear!
No faith in God, your loss. God's there. And just in case you ever need him, call him, he'll be there by your side.
2006-12-10 02:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Maverick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋