My mother and my father are divorced. And i live with my mom. my mom says i always get smart with her. and i dont know why i get smart and i am not aware when i do get smart so can someone please tell me why i get smart with her all the time?
2006-12-10 02:15:31 · 12 answers · asked by velinciarocks88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yea..maybe you get smart with her because you are challenging her authority. You want to see if she will hold her ground, and consistently discipline you.
2006-12-10 02:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of anger. You should try to control your anger towards you mom. Old folk's tale was that a real true mother will never leave their child/children whatsoever. The men are the ones that causes more problems in relationships and marriages. Don't get me wrong, I don't know you nor the situation that you're in but your mom is right there with you all the way. Please don't blow it for you and your mother. You only have one mom, so make every day count. The way that you talk it seems like that you really love your mother. If thats the case show her that you do love her and that you will be there for her. Your mom really needs you as well to get through this time period of life. Life is not always beautiful, but the love that you have for your mother is. So take time and let her know that you are still there for her. Then you will see the outcome of a better and stronger relationship between you and your mother.
2006-12-10 10:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow you are trying to blame her for the pain in your life. She is the closest to you and you feel she should be able to fix all that is wrong in your life. When she doesn't do this, you lash out! Sounds like you have some resentment that needs to be dealt with, do you think she is to blame for the divorce? I know sometimes we mothers can be a little too clingy and want to know everything that is going on with our children and it can be annoying sometimes. Especially is you don't know what is bothering you. Talk to her and let her help you sort it out. I think it is great that you are smart enough feel bad about being ugly with her. Also, you may be going through puberty and this can make you very moody and emotional. She has been through that too, so just tell her what you are feeling and she will help you through. Good Luck!
2006-12-10 10:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are aware that you are being "smart" with her, you just don't care. You are taking things out on her because it is the human way. We always take our problems out on the ones we love. Just try and remember that Mom is having just as hard a time as you are. I am raising my 3 kids on my own and I have the same problem with my daughter...she is just too much like me! I understand you are going through hard times, but so is your mom. You are both just too much alike and maybe she doesn't want to see you make the same mistakes she has so she is trying to make sure you aren't like her.
2006-12-10 10:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by angela k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to release your frustration and sadness. Remember. WE hurt the ones we love most. When it's that time of the month I also get easily upset and rude and stuff without meaning it, but before I know it I did it again. I think you are so used to it that you do not realize anymore when you do it. Be attentive on what you say and think before you speak. It's going be hard to stop doing it, because it's just a bad habit. Just like it is hard to stop smoking. Very hard. We are not on earth to provoke and fight, we are here to preserve peace. Good luck. Maybe ask her to remind you when you get smart with her... Good luck
2006-12-10 10:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because you're missing your family. You're subconsciously holding her responsible for that, maybe? Start off by realising that no one's going to hang around for ever. We are all mortals, so it doesn't make sense trying to waste our time together in bickering and hating. Stop being selfish. Do something for her. Get her some flowers. Do some household chores for her. She'll do something for you in return. Smile. Laugh. Let this Christmas bring with it the joy and happiness that you deserve, that your family deserves. That's the way your mother'll be happy. That's the way you will be too.
2006-12-10 10:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be that you are a very outspoken person. I have gone through the same thing with my daughter. She says things very bluntly and I take it as disrespectful. When I ask her why she talks to me like that, she honestly doesn't see anything wrong with what she said. Try to remember that you are speaking to your mother, not a peer or a friend. Show her some respect. I think that is the key. It's helped me and my daughter. Good Luck.
2006-12-10 10:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may resent authority, and it is hard growing up with no father in the house. i use to get smart with my mom also when i was younger, boy how i wish i could take all that back, wish i knew what i know now, comes with age. u resent that your family is broken, maybe u blame her for it.
2006-12-10 11:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are hurting. being a child of divorce is not easy,talk with your mom and dad together about your feelings.
2006-12-10 10:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think B4 u say it.u don't want everything to get classified as getting smart .try being nice when she's not expecting it
2006-12-10 10:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by marshall m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋